If so how long do they have to wait until you find the right person. Is anyone in a similar situation where they want to wait to loose there virginity to someone special rather than just a one night stand or a relationship that would never last. If so how long did you have to wait until you found someone special. It is just I am in my mid 20’s and I am wondering if it is ever going to happen. I mean yes there are a lot of girls I like and who like me back but still have not found the right person. Please help.
2006-12-04 12:35:26 · 20 answers · asked by T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait until you're married and you'll avoid a lot of drama- not to mention exposure to diseases, unwanted pregnancy, emotional turmoil, etc.
2006-12-04 12:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The notion that Virginity is some great gift that you give to someone is a dangerous idea. If you are expecting to marry another Virgin you are going to be sadly disappointed......and single.
The belief that a virgin woman is somehow better than a woman that has had partners objectifies women. In Muslim Countries Women are reduced to being a commodity and their value is based on whether they are "Used" or not. If you go to Paradise as a Martyr you will get 72 virgins. In Western Countries the only people who think like that are Right Wing Religious types. Nobody places any value on a male virgin.
It's against Human Nature to be a Virgin at 25. Sex is a normal body function and if you dont have sex fairly regularly or at least masturbate you run the risk of damaging your body. Sex with someone you dont love is like masturbating with another person, sex with someone you love is 1000 times better, either one is better than not having sex.
Remember that the biological function of sex is to have children, a child is far too important to not have 2 parents, do not under any circumstances have unprotected sex. Remember that it only takes 1 sperm to fertilize an ovum and dont take chances with your and her life, a child deserves to be loved, supported and cared for life. Just think how you would feel if your parents told you that you were a mistake. Unprotected sex can kill you....get used to wearing a condom.
Also remember that men can go from zero to sixty in a minute but women take at least 30 minutes. A mans job is to satisfy a woman and it takes practice and time. Having sex with a virgin woman can be a disappointment your first time would be better with a more experienced woman.
2006-12-04 16:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is 26 and she just lost her virginity this year. wow, I can't believe that she finally found the right person, a person she was willing to let her guard down for. Some one that made her first time unforgettable. So yes, I think that waiting is worth the wait. I personally have only been with one person and I wouldn't change a thing. You will know when it is right, it will just happen. You wont have to think about whether or not what you are about to do is right or wrong, there will be no question. I don't know when you will know or with who you will feel this with, but it will happen, don't worry when that special person comes into your life everything will feel right. You will just know
2006-12-04 12:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by rain_sun_ice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short answer no. Why? Well here's the main reason. If you wait for 'the one' then you may end up staying with this person forever, which is great, good for you. But, after a few years, maybe 1, 2, 20 or 40 you will wonder what it would be like to have had sex with someone else, it will plague you lol. If you play the field abit, sample the different flavours then when you pick you know it is because it was your best choice, not your only choice.
2006-12-04 19:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by scott e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you havn't found the right person, then don't worry about the sex part. Any more these days ppl ahve sex at very young ages and find it not a big deal. virginity is something your suppose to give to somebody you love and plan on being with for the rest of your life. Be happy that your one of the tough ones that has stuck it out this long. You'll find the right person eventually and your time will come.
2006-12-04 12:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Shaynee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the kind of thing where you may not regret it at the time, but as you get older you begin to regret losing your virginity too soon. Sex is a pretty temporary pleasure, but a relationship (and trust and shared experiences) is there for the long run.
Do yourself a favor and don't compromise on this. Keep waiting until you find the right one for you, and you won't have to live with your regrets.
2006-12-04 12:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The concept of virginity is a fairly artificial one. You have to ask yourself why having sex for the first time is more important or valuable than every time afterwards.
Even if you are interested only in long term relationships, people tend to go through one or two before they find someone they want to spend the rest of their life, or at least a long time with. Most people don't really rate their first time as anything important when looking back, but first love, first long term relationship, sure. First time having sex is a non issue, really.
2006-12-04 17:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by dtlyuol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE MAKING A HUGE MISTAKE by waiting for the right person to lose your viginity. Use your time to build up experience so that when she finally comes along, you two can have a real wow time. Specially if she aint a virgin, she'll be mighty disappointed.
2006-12-04 16:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't help. But, waiting for the right person can surely do something for your sense of 'appreciation' of the person ~ just as long as you don't start telling him / her off for 'being late' ~ when you finally meet.
The bottom line is (and I really hate using that expression) 'in the end, only YOU can answer your own question.'
Best of luck.
Sash.
2006-12-04 12:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 24 and i gave up waiting for the right person in the end and just did it with some1
Its yr choice
2006-12-04 13:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by rachel d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep waiting on the person you truly feel as though you want to share this experience with. It will be more of a special moment, rather than just sex. Who wants to be used for a toilet. God bless****
2006-12-04 12:39:23 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋