Ok, i have been cutting my self for a month. I told one of my friends who told my teacher (with permision), who told my guidence counciler, who told my mom. My mom saw my cuts and now dosnt trust me. but thats not what my quesions about. Now i have to go to a pyciatrist and i dont want to go. Its not that i dont want to go because i dont think they will help, its just that i have a hard time verbally expressing my feelings. It was sooo hard telling my friends, teachers, and mom why. Now i cant imagine what it is like telling a complete stranger. Expecially since i am 13 and i dont remeber every single detail of why i started, how i knew about cutting, and when was the exact date i started. Any tips on how i can express my feelings to a complete and total stranger whos job it is to find every little thing about your life?
2006-12-04 12:30:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
the only reasons that i can think of that may have started the cutting:
I have 3 LD's
I have really bad autheritist
My dad is an alcoholic
getting in many fights with my dad
I am loosing a friend to my worse enemy
I dont remeber which one started
2006-12-04 12:47:52 · update #1
write your feelings down and take them to the therapist also write your thoughts down that always helped me
and just guess around when u started
i wish you the best of luck
2006-12-04 12:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by raindrop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be too scared. This is a good thing that you are willing to go and get help. It is the therapist's job to guide you and help you be able to express what is behind the cutting. You may actually find that it is easier to tell a complete stranger what is going on. Sometimes it is difficult to tell family and friends things because you are worried that they will judge you or you may even be worried that you are hurting them by telling them you are hurting because you know they want you to be happy.
A therapist is an impartial, objective person that you can tell anything to without having to worry about their feelings or what they think. You might be surprised. And you don't have to tell people what you say in those sessions and typically the therapist agrees not to tell anything you don't want them to- unless you said you were going to hurt yourself and someone else. They can help find a medium for you to express your feelings that is easier for you until you can verbalize it. Like writing, or IMing, or art or something.
Good luck to you and congratulations on being willing to go.
2006-12-04 20:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sue P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a brave person for seeking help - it has to be unbelieavably difficult to summon the courage to try to fix what's causing you to cut yourself.
I'm a recovering alcoholic, and this is very similar to something I went through in treatment - the fifth step. During that phase of recovery, I had to discuss every detail of my using with someone else. It was one of the most difficult things I had to do. I was so scared before going through with it--I felt that if I ever told everything to someone, I would be castigated and rejected as a moral failure--but it did the exact opposite. I finally had all of that baggage out of my closet, and I was embraced for putting it out there.
My feeling is that you might be in the same boat, but just rememeber that the person is there to help you and that nothing you say will make anyone look down on you. Be completly open and honest; if you're scared, upset, or worried, tell him that to. He's there to make sure that you get the help you need.
Best of luck with everything.
2006-12-04 20:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to what you were feeling when you started cutting. I used to cut and it took me a pretty long time (about a year) to fully remember the reasons why. Just think long and hard. Write in a diary. Also, if you have kept diaries from the past when you cut or the present, read them over.
Don't hold anything back with your shrink. They work off what you tell them, and the other things. But be honest. And the shrinks job isn't to find out every little thing about your life, they are their to help you understand and cope with whatever led you to cut. Dont turn your back on them, because they are there to help you.
I hope you have a sucess and get over cutting yourself. :)
2006-12-04 20:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the therapist is there to help you. You would be surprised at how much just talking to someone can help. And it is okay to not know how to answer but try .And the more you talk the easier it will get. Your therapist is outside looking in which means that she can give you her undivided attention without getting upset and not be judgemental of you.
2006-12-04 20:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its easier to talk to a stranger. they don't have a set idea about you and can be less judgemental. Their job is really to listen and help you figure things out for yourself. they can help you learn better ways of dealing with your concerns. you have made a good start with writing this question. I would suggest starting a journal. you can write your feelings there and it might help you to say them later. good luck
2006-12-04 20:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by katlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. It will turn out fine. Just go and talk to the therapist and let him/her guide you.
2006-12-04 20:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-04 20:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by ejh g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, quit being a moron and cutting yourself. Then you won't have to see a shrink! What stupidity!
2006-12-04 20:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by charles 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This might be helpful
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-12-04 20:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋