so my fiance went to court today for child support?

Question

They said he will have to pay 750 a month. This is ridiculous, she still lives at home with her mother. He only makes 12 an hour. So after taxes that would not leave us with much money to live off of. We have a child on the way. Because of this I won't be working. I do not trust people with my child. So I will be a stay at home mother. Does any one have any advice. Please don't be rude. This is hard enough I don't need stupid comments. Thank you

The child is a year and a half he was paying her 310 a month

Her mother also constantly tells him she's not his daughter

Answer 1

First off, is the form finalized? If it isn't, now would be the best time to go over what they have because once they do that, there is very little you can do.
Child support is not based upon either his or her expenses. It's basically two questions: where does the child live and who has how much money. And when money is involved, governments get greedy.
If you can review the form, the first thing you should check is if they included any overtime on the income estimation. He probably should get a note from his supervisor stating that overtime is not mandatory and it is not regular. Have them calculate it based upon a forty-hour workweek.
Next, see what she is making. If she has any sort of income, they should be including that. This is called child support, not spousal support.
Finally, does he have the child on any sort of health insurance? if he does, you may be entitled to a deduction based upon the child's premium.
Now, the child on the way helps. One of the things that is brought into consideration is the number of children of the NCP. Once the child is born, you may be able to file for a modification. But I would not wait, have him contact a lawyer; if he can't afford one, at least go through his company's EAP program (often times, they can get you a free consultation with someone).
Good luck and sorry about the sad news.

Answer 2

First of all, I certainly feel for your situation.

I have two kids, both now in their 20's and both boys. Years ago I told both of them that the cost of raising a child to 18 is $250,000. I may have been a bit high, but I hope I got my message across to them. The court has essentially awarded your husband's child $162,000 in child support over the 18 years.

I'm really not certain that a person/family with only one "bread earner" making $12 an hour can afford two children, especially if they live in two different locations and have to be housed separately. The other mother is lucky that she is being allowed to stay at home, at least for the time being.

It is a quandry and while there are answers, none of them are going to satisfy many people who are in this situation.

Good luck to the 4 of you. You are in my prayers.

Answer 3

Ok 750 a month, he got off easy in Michigan the lowest you can get a week (regardless of what he makes) is $250 or $1000 a month. So consider yourself lucky, also the 1st child will always come first in the courts eyes so when he gets a raise and the child support is reevaluated (1x per year) she will get about 50% of that. Sorry just to let you know you have a messy road ahead of you

Answer 4

Unfortunately, his ex doesn't have to include "household" income. It is just her sole income (even if she remarries!). They take the number of kids, his income and her income and find it on a chart and that's the amount to be paid. There's really not much that can be done. You may both have to work opposite shifts or you may have to work full time and he part time. If he does go down to part time, he woudl pay less in support (if he goes back to court showing his income is lower), but the child is the one that will suffer and lose out.

He could attempt joint custody and then neither person pays support.

My sister donates plasma twice a week and gets paid $50/week. That's an extra 200/month. You could both do that (it takes about an hour each time) and that is tax free money. Do a search on "biolife". (you cannot donate while pregnant, but can start 6 weeks after).

Answer 5

See that does not make any d**m sense the same thing is going on with my husband and the thing is his son does not even live with the mother some women take advantage of the system just for jealousy and revenge, yeah he needs to go back to court and at that she should not be receiving that much in the first place that is absurd I know how you feel because we have been fighting for custody and everything else but the courts falls for this feminist bull crap all the time.

Answer 6

they could be charging a lot b/c he owes back child support, so he not only owes the current amount but needs to repay the amount of months/years he went without paying the baby's mother. he should appeal the decision on the grounds that his current income is not enough to pay $750 plus his other living expenses (like his newborn child). the courts may be taking in to consideration that you are a two income household (since you currently work) so that may be another reason they have mandated more money.

Answer 7

Well...it does sound a bit unreasonable, but its not impossible. If the child is an infant they could be factoring in child care costs which are astronomical for infants. A guy I know pays almost $600 a month for his child...and his child is a teenager.

It might be a bit difficult for you to not work if your fiancee is only making 12 per hour and paying almost $800 a month in child care. I would either look into subsidized housing and WIC, or get a job and get child care vouchers.

Answer 8

He needs to take care of his child. And in Michigan at least, there is no maxium percentage that can be taken from the check. There is a specific formula that is used to determine the amount. Which if you contact the FOC you can get a copy. You should want him to take care of his children since he is to be the father of your child. Also make sure the court knows he has another dependent on the way, that may change the amount seem he'll be responsible for that baby too. As for you I think you should be working making it on less than 12.00 a hour is going to be next to impossible!

Answer 9

My advice is, consider how you will feel if your fiancee leaves you with your child. Will you want a reasonable amount of child support? Will you take less than what's reasonable because it will leave him and his new girlfriend and child less wealthy?

$750 a month is LESS than $200/week. It's an expensive proposition to raise a child and your fiancee is as responsible for the other child as he is for the child he will be having with you. Perhaps the mother of his other child wishes to also stay home because she doesn't trust babysitters. Perhaps she needs to stay with her mother because the person she had a child with left to start a new life with someone else.

My advice to you is to get used to having a large portion of your fiancee's income going to his ex and their child. It's just a simple fact of life when you create a child with someone. He will be responsible until the child is 18 (or longer if the child goes to college) so you'll have to be ready for a long and difficult road.

Answer 10

Why didn't your fiance have a lawyer? There are laws that state how much child support can be taken out. Sounds like $750 a month is almost half of his salary. Get an attorney, now!