I really thought i was in love with my X. but deep down I know there is someone better for me. not just phisically more attractive, but just better for me. My X and I could be good together, but I just do not feel the need to always be with her. I could live without her honestly.. NOt like if she died, but I feel i could be happier with someone else... Anyone else been here before? Did it prove true?
2006-12-04 12:22:05 · 24 answers · asked by ucfmanic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with people and felt like they belonged to someone else. Not that they were cheating, but that spiritually, they were tied to someone else who wasn't me who they might not even have met yet. It's hard to explain, but it was a definate feeling I felt even if they didn't.
2006-12-04 12:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes and yes again. But take your time. You know the saying that sometimes you don't realize what you have until you have lost it. Before dating, think about what you want out of a relationship and always think of a date as a prospective spouse. Unless of course you just need a body beside you for an event or warmth and that would require a background check and a few tests.
2006-12-04 20:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can always find happiness in other people.
Love don't really care who it is, but you can always make yourself think there is better...
the true lesson in life is this though....
You will never ever find the perfect match, there is no such thing as perfection. You even get mad at yourself at time proving that you cant stand to be around you all the time, and the opposites are only attractive for a short period.
be careful in life, you will always be able to think you can find someone better, just in which ways do you want the better to be located? that is the question you should ask yourself.
2006-12-04 20:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, I've been there before.. and YES it proved true. It's better to walk away then stay with someone if you think your in love but yet can see yourself with someone else.. The longer you stay in a situation like that, the harder it is to get out of it. One or both of you will hurt more the longer you stay involved. I am married now to the love of my life, and trust me I never in my life knew true love till I met him. I'm Married 7 years now and I think back and realize it was never true love. You will know in your heart when you meet your soul mate. Trust me! Good Luck!
2006-12-04 21:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by kathy p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to what you are saying, but that doesn't mean you didn't love her, you simply realized she wasn't a good long-term partner for you.
Yeah, I've loved someone but not enough to be with them indefinitely...and I've thought I loved someone only to find out later, it wasn't really love (not a deep romantic love).
Sometimes it's a matter of being happier without them...whether or not we ever get with anyone else.
2006-12-04 20:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought I loved my first b/f. I was head over heels in love- or so I thought, but I always had a gut feeling about him. I never felt quite right with him. I was proved right when our relationship started to get serious and he became controlling of me. I got out of the relationship as fast as I could. I realized in the end it was lust not love.
2006-12-04 20:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by FormatLife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i thought i met my soul mate and best friend but after a year+ long relationship he changed and turned into a real jerk and brought me down n hurt my feelings so now i found someone new after bein single for a few weeks. i didnt think i could get over him ever because he was my first for everything. he was my first true love but now sometimes i wonder if it was love the whole time. maybe you loved your ex but u werent IN love with her the whole time. well i met someone and i think he is real relationship material. so yes i've been there
2006-12-04 20:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by =] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you could live without her, then shes not right for you. I had a lot of relationships like that, where I loved them, but I didnt feel in love. Until I met Matt, and I can't imagine myself with anyone else.
Good Luck, and give it time ;)
2006-12-04 20:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. When the right person comes you will not doubt your love for that person. You will just know it. Deep down in your heart you knew you loved that person, but could love someone more. It's the facts of life. I call it puppy love.
2006-12-04 20:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone has felt this way at some stage in their life, and the only way you can get through is to have that blind faith and belief that one day you will meet someone and just know that they are the one for you. Don't settle if you know it is not right. Keep on smiling. You can only do what you think is best for you.
2006-12-04 20:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by smile_girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋