my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. my boyfriend has had a girlfriend for christmas before... infact he had a girlfriend for four years, but they never exchanged gifts. christmas is one of my favorite holidays and i think that if i didnt get him anything or he didnt get me anything i would not be happy. i know it is not all about the gifts, but i have always gotten gifts for the people that i care about and he is included in that list this year. and it is not about the money because since he is 25 he is fine, he just says that he has never done it before. i really really want to but i dont want to force him into something that he doesnt want to do.
2006-12-04 12:20:44 · 4 answers · asked by cassie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should express your feelings on the issue and let him know how important gift-giving is. Then go shopping together and point out things you'd like so he can get some ideas.
2006-12-04 12:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about it and tell him it is emotionally important to you to give a gift because you care about him. Maybe you can agree to give gifts to each other (skis, bicycles) where you can do something together. Maybe you can give each other a trip or a dinner or a concert and split the costs or give each other the tickets. He may be ready to simply suggest something he would like to have and just doesn't know how to approach it. Some guys at his age think they don't "need" gifts because they don't care about "things." If they want something, they go buy it. You have to help him to understand that for you it's not about the money or the item, but it's about doing something for someone you care for. You might want to give each other "gift certificates" for things like back rubs or going to a movie the other person picked without complaint, or more personal things if appropriate. There are lots of choices. Be open with him but be flexible so he can feel good about the experience.
2006-12-04 12:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get him a gift or make something it!you don!t have to give a gift to receive
2006-12-04 12:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by marie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him if he'd like to exchange gifts. just because he's neve done it before, doesn't mean he won't be willing to try it with you!
Good Luck
2006-12-04 12:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋