Even when your best friend is also a ex, and you totally don't agree with the guy that she's going to married........
2006-12-04 12:19:10 · 15 answers · asked by TruStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's not wrong as long as you politely excuse yourself without making a scene.
As a friend, though, it may be better if you are supportive and be there, even though you may not like the person she's marrying.
2006-12-04 12:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is your best friend why aren't you IN the wedding? That being said, or asked, your "no show" would be construed as a jealousy issue about your ex and you may lose your best friend over a no show. Take the high road and go to the wedding and wish them well, you'll be the better person for it and your friend will still be your friend after she's married. Good luck and oh, if you can find a hot date for the wedding, that would be great--- have fun!
2006-12-05 00:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about reversing the situation. If you were getting married, how would you feel if your best friend didn't come? Maybe you should try to see what the friend sees in her fiance. Is it possible that you may not like this guy due to some unresolved feelings to your best friend? In the end, this could be a marriage that could last forever and you will never be able to get that experience back to share with her. So, instead of it's it wrong or right, can you honestly say you would miss an event that means so much to your best friend?
2006-12-04 15:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Keirra's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's wrong. It's not your job to judge at this point. She's going to marry him...right or wrong. At this point, it's your role to be supportive.
Could you be against it BECAUSE it's your ex? Are you really a best friend or do you secretly want your friend back in a relationship with you?
2006-12-04 15:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to explain that you aren't comfortable and supportive of attending the wedding. If she still insists that she wants you to attend, going to the ceremony only and skipping out on the reception may be a safe choice. That way you are not required to interact socially with them, but still able to show your support for your friend, if not for her marriage, by being present for the vows.
2006-12-04 13:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Evoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
People are adults and make choices in their lives. If we've friends we should be there to support them. What happens if it all falls apart - will you say "I told you so?" - Wouldn't it be better to say "I'm here for you"? and help pick up the pieces.
Go to the wedding and give the support a good friend should.
If you that annoyed about the whole thing just don't go.
2006-12-04 13:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by shimmy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A friend is a friend, no matter what...you should support her through anything, and then be there for her when she needs you. I don't see why you wouldn't want to celebrate with her, even if an ex is involved...
2006-12-05 07:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your best friend ... and yes it's wrong if you don't go ... be a friend show some support and if you feel its the wrong guy .. well then catch her when she falls ... not going to the wedding is childish and just because you don't like him or feel he's wrong for her ... your not her ... and he may have qualities you don't know about, give her the benefit of the doubt and be a friend!!!
2006-12-04 13:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont go if u think its going to ruin the day and u now ur going to have a sourface the whole time.......on the other hand if youv'r got a great fake smile then go 4 a while to show your support but leave wen u feel uncomfortable
2006-12-08 10:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by jaydyne f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you really feel compelled not to go, you need to explain why. You were invited to share in your best friends happiness but if you feel that going wouldn't be constructive or might be detrimental to the relationship. Your best friend needs to know that it's for their benefit because you care not just because you don't want to share in their happiness.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 14:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by Chiky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋