Hi I wanted to ask this question because i was wonder about it but I how its not 2 personal but I wanted to know Is it true the first time u have sex does it hurt???Because so people says it hurts for the first u do it and some people say it hurts only for like a half an hour than it feels good but I dont know Im only 17 years old and I wanted to know because I dont have any clue about that
2006-12-04 12:16:56 · 35 answers · asked by njsweetheart69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
half an hour?
2006-12-04 12:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you are not to young to know this stuff. You are 17, thats a young woman. Pull you head in if you think thats too young. I am 23, am I still to yougn???
Anyway. I dont think anyone can answer that for you, we are all different. We are all build different and our private parts are all different. Some of my friends when they had sex for the first time, said it hurt and some said it didnt hurt. My first expereince it didnt hurt, it was a weird feeling, it was more of a pressue feeling. Think of the first time you used a tampon, that weird feeling, well you could use that a start. It also depends on how big his penis is. If its huge then its going to hurt people ifs its there first time or the 100000 time.
The only thing I could suggest it buying a vibrator, that is a normal size (NOT 12 inch etc) and try for yousrelf.
It may not be the real thing, but it may ease your mind alittle.
You are not to young for asking these questions or doing the act, you are a young woman. There are thousnads of 12 year olds having children......you have waited.
Please remember that protection is always the answer. If he says dont worry I dont have anything, then you tell him that IF ITS NOT ON THEN ITS NOT ON. No protection.....no sex!!!
2006-12-04 12:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These questions scare me. When you refer to yourself as "only 17" you're right. I hope you are only asking out of the sake of curiosity.
And the more mature women here are the ones to honor, honey. Men (and never boys) do not last 1/2 hour (without some artificial assistance - and who wants it?).
The part to concentrate on is not penetration. It won't last that long. And when you are ready (very very ready) you will likely not be too awfully uncomfortable.
The reason you won't be is because he will be so caring, so loving and so tender that he will help. When it is right you will feel valued, respected, the room will be warm, you will feel safe, things will move slowly and you will have no doubts in your mind. He will be asking all along if you are all right. If this is OK, if that is good. The choices will be yours.
If the first time is anything less, it's not time, and it won't be as comfortable. Don't settle for less and you will be fine. If your girlfriends are telling you horror stories of blood and pain then they have likely settled.
My advice is to wait until marriage but I know in this world it often doesn't happen. So, at least shoot for a loving, caring long term relationship (like over a year). Talk to God first. Talk to your mother. Talk to him. Talk to yourself. Just don't jump in. Take your time. Make him take his.
2006-12-04 13:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, yess it hurts, its hurts, because i dont mean to gross you out or anything since something is being put there for the first timee haha yeahh its gonna hurt!
but do not worry
i think bout the second time it only hurt going in butt if felt good,
but than the more you doo the looser you get and the better it feels
but do not worry
its not like your first time if going to be horrile...
i think the top might make the pain feel a little bitt betterr
but i think it hurt the mostt after having sexx...
its kinda a burning feeling
haha
2006-12-04 12:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by kelsey h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that has been many years ago for me, but yes it does hurt a bit. Thats why a girls first time is not as great as a guys. And if the feeling is real bad for her, it may take time for her again. Most don't realize it gets better and so if it was not a good experience they may have a hard time liking it again.
2006-12-04 12:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i was ur age it did hurt. and its not just for the first time. each person is different. it hurt me the first 3 times. some say it hurts a lil for the first and then after that its okay. but for the main part yes it does hurt alot for the first time. its so much for some that they cry.
2006-12-04 12:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It different for everyone. It can hurt but it's not going to kill you or anything...it's just pain. I had cramps after the first time for a few days. Some people have no problems.
Just use protection and take your time - lots of foreplay until you are so ready you can't stand it.
2006-12-04 12:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my first time it hurt but not so bad to where i couldn't handle it. The guy went really slow at first and then after the first 2 minutes or so, it didn't hurt anymore.
2006-12-04 12:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by Shaynee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it still hurts for me. i do it like 2-4 times a month since august. so i havent done it that much but at first it would hurt for a while but then it would go away. after the first couple of times it only hurt until he started moving inside me.
2006-12-04 12:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by xstraight_edge_emo_kidx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it hurts. But good luck getting a half an hour's worth out of a teenaged boy.
2006-12-04 12:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You're too young but you should know the answer. It hurts...it hurts a lot. I can't really explain it too well but when a girl losses her virginity the penis tears a tissue and she starts to bleed a bit. And if you do plan to have sex, use a condom and be gentle...like i said, it hurts.
2006-12-04 12:23:20 · answer #11 · answered by basmusiq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋