lucky family, the thing is we have moved to a new house and it is in a posh area...my daughter who is 11 goes to a new school as well and today she came home and said the other kids think she is rich *****...yes I dress my child well, I want to know how the other kids know this, my girl is not a *****, but yes we do have money. She said no one wanted to hang out with her because "she cant buy friends...maybe clothes, but not us" is what one kid said.
HELP...how do I deal with this.
2006-12-04 12:08:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
become poor. jk jk jk
just umm, tell her to be extra nice, so that will cancel peoples preconceived notions of rich people.
2006-12-04 12:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, there are always going to be kids who'll pick on a new kid. As someone who moved often, I know that it makes you a bit of a target even if you've done nothing. If the certain kids who are picking on her weren't singling her out because of her clothing, it would be for something else.
You can help her by making sure her clothing fits the school. There's always a "uniform" even when there isn't so keep watch to see which brands are the in ones at her new school. Explain to her that this has nothing to do with money or with anything she's done (after you make sure that she isn't bragging about wealth) and talk to her about looking for a friend outside of the circle of people who are teasing her.
This is also something that should be discussed with her teacher because the school has programs to deal with the subtle (and not so subtle) bullying that goes on with girls. A good teacher will incorporate the problem into a lesson plan to help guide the kids.
Good luck with this.
2006-12-04 20:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter treats people in an acceptable way, she will get treated accordingly. You have to understand that she is new in school and kids always pick on the new kid. The other thing is jealousy. Your daughter is dressed well and the other kids may be jealous. And do not assume ever that your child did not do anything wrong. Kids will be kids and whether you think so or not, she probably did flaunt a little bit. Sorry to tell you the truth, but that is all kids.
2006-12-05 19:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by ms.melancholy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little kids sometimes have a hard time accepting knew people and probably picked on her beacuse she was the new kid and judged her too quickly... remind her that its not material things that matter and to not worry, she will make friends soon enough. Also, try not to dress her too well and such becasue that will be feeding the fire. But if she is getting bullied too much, then bring it up to the school because that can really cause some problems... good luck and don't worry too much, at least she doesn't have 'fake friends' which want her for who she wears instead of who she is...And Chistmas break is not far off so encourage her to hang on until then....
Hope I helped!
2006-12-04 20:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by laughingale101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you moved into a posh area then why would these kids be acting like that? That doesn't even make sense....unless your daughter is acting snooty. Kids that age tend to run around saying things they shouldn't and then whine when the other kids don't like them. She needs to learn to deal with this...NOT you because then she'd just be a tattletale too. Just be there to listen and let her figure it out on her own.
2006-12-04 21:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids were pretty sh1tty when I was that age, although that feels like eons ago.
I was poor, but it doesn't matter. The new kids get it most of the time.
She needs to dress like the other kids her age. It will make things easier for her.
Getting involved in a school project like Christian Student Union, Choir, or Art will make her some friends pretty fast. i know that it stresses you out to see your daughter getting the brunt of the other kids' cruelty, but she's going to have to stand on her own, here. You getting involved is only going to make it worse. They will torment her that much more if they think that "mommy's going to rush to her defense" every time she gets picked on.
Just tell her to be nice, and if the other kids persist, to just ignore them. Eventually, those other kids will find a target that gets upset at their taunts, because your daughter doesn't. If she doesn't get upset, it kind of defeats the purpose of teasing her for those other kids.
2006-12-04 20:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her to the local shopping area, - ask her to pick out clothes that the other girls are wearing to school, buy them.
problem solved!
kids are very petty like that and can get very jelious of things like that and its things like this (being diffrent) can lead to bullying sadly, so i suggest you let her wear whatever she wants, I.E. what all the other kids are wearing, this is a new school and she will need to fit in so she can have a happy time their, so if fitting in means a pair of jeans, and a baggy jumper then so be it.
at the end of the day its school, not a wedding your kid doesnt and shouldnt be dressing in her best clothes because of the amount of wear they go though
2006-12-04 20:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
approach the kids at school giving her grief and convey a strong message that you do not appreciate their doings and then if that does not work, hold a meeting with the kids and their parents and talk about how their child can work his kindness ( humiliate the kid in front of his parents always humbles 'em
2006-12-04 20:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to invite some of her classmates to your house? so they can get to know her. Try to get to know their parents as well. I was in a similar situation when I was 11 too. 'My parents were wealthy, I used to get embarrassed every time that sent me to school, my classmates used to make fun of me because I had a chauffeur bring me. They even used to step on y shoes just because they were new. But after I invite them over my house they were very happy,(who saids that you can't buy friends?) they loved going to my house because they got to play tennis, swim and play pin pong! what a great time we used to have. Believe me it does work, invite them to your home. Good Luck!
2006-12-04 20:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whoa it sounds like she told them that she is rich, because you cant look at someone unless they are dressed really nice and say oh you look rich you cant buy me,
2006-12-04 20:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by ohh babyyy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋