a couple of people told me that i need to build my confidence. easier said than done. how can i do this?

Question

how do i do it? id like to take your suggestions and to change, but how do i gain my confidence, self esteem, strength? it sounds very hard to me.

Answer 1

ive had the same problem since i was a youngest, its either you bite the bullet and force yourself to be a bit better each day or you will go thru life missing out on things. it';s bloody hard trust me but some things just need to be done.
and you'll fell better gradually but rememeber never to be to over confident cause then things get ugly and you become a stuck up pig. so good luck.

Answer 2

The next time you get scared when doing something that requires confidence (making a speech or trying to flirt), just do it. Don't be affraid. Just know that ONLY YOU are keeping yourself from what you want. I use to be the same way about 10 years ago. I dropped about 60lbs and realized, DANG I'M HOT! So I did a complete 180 and I can give speeches anytime, talk to anyone and not scared at all. I even went up to Carlos Mencia when he did a show here a few weeks back and talked to him. While the other girls were busy nervously giggling, I WAS TALKING TO HIM.

Just do it; it'll grow on you.

Answer 3

First of all, everyone has something they are good at. Find what you are good at and take pride in it.

Try to remember that we are all created equal and that you are just as good as everyone else. Somone else may be better at something than you are but remember, you are better at something else than they are.

Don't let other people's high opinion of themselves blind you to the fact that they are just human like you.

To build your confidence make yourself do things that you are afraid to do for instance if you are afraid to speak in front of a group of people, make yourself do it. It will make you feel stronger and it will build your self esteem and confidence.

I use to be afraid to speak in front of people and the thought of singing would definately kill me but I started to take on leadership roles in TOPS (Take off Pounds Sensibly) and the more I talked in front of the group the more comfortable I felt, then I started singine in variety shows and my confidence went through the roof.

I stopped talking in front of groups and singing in public and I know I would be very shy to start again, but I know I could do it if I wanted to so my self esteem and confidence is still up there.

Now don't think that I am this beautiful woman with a great figure because I am an older woman, not ugly but quite over weight but I still love myself and know that I am an intelligent person with a great sense of humour and that keeps my confidence up.

Good Luck and love yourself and give yourself credit for what you do well.

Answer 4

set yourself small achievable goals. Something that will make you proud when you have done them. make sure they are not too hard.
Do this often, set daily or weekly goals and this will help improve your self confidence.

If you are not confident around people, set yourself a goal, like you will speak to one person that you don't know and make conversation.
Then you can be proud you did it
And next time, maybe you will talk a little longer, or talk to two people instead.

there are great books at the library on this topic, if you enjoy reading.

Answer 5

fake it until you feel it. try a little bit at a time, like smile at a stranger, or just start by walking more assertively. and stand up straight and look people in the eye!! don't be timid, when you want something or someone asks you something, commit to it totally. be sure of what you do and you can be sure of yourself.

Answer 6

Go to a strip club

Answer 7

May I suggest you join a club or sport at school. You can get good at something where you matter and are appreciated while making countless friends.