Just fostered these two adorable black kitties for 5 weeks, they stole my heart, the house feels so empty! I can't adopt them because I will be moving a lot next year, out of country. I wished there were other kittens to foster to replace them but I have to wait till Wednsday.They were getting spayed and neutered today, I am afraid they will suffer in those cages with other kitties, will they share the food with them?
I can't stop crying thinking about them!
2006-12-04 12:00:38 · 11 answers · asked by silver wings 4 in Pets ➔ Cats
What if the are adopted by somebody that cares less?
2006-12-04 12:01:43 · update #1
You need to remember that you have given them the very best you could give during a very formative period of their lives. The cats they will be as adults, will be a reflection on your good work as a foster mom.
I foster cats and kittens, and have for about 40 years now. Letting go the first time is the hardest, but it always tugs a bit when they go. You worry whether they will REALLy get good homes...or at least as good a home as you gave them.
In the end, you must come to some sort of peace with yourself, and what I've settled on may help you. If it weren't for foster homes, a lot of these babies would never have a chance at life, at all. You did your part and now it is up to the organization for which you fostered to do their job well. I'm sure they will. Now that these babies are on their way to being very good, very healthy big cats, there will be room in your home to help more. We really can't keep them all, no matter how much we would like to.
Hope that helps you some.
2006-12-04 12:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I took a stray cat in and she had kittens in my bathroom that night. I kept them all for 12 weeks! Trying the whole time to find the right place to take them. I finally did find a wonderful place that spayed and neutered them gave them their shots, etc. and were extremely careful about people who were interested in the animals they sheltered. The applications for adoption were marvelous! I doubt if they would have even let me adopt them and I had taken care of them all their short little lives! I knew I could not keep them - but I did keep their mom (she died less then a year later). Their pictures were on the web site and one by one I watched them be adopted! I was thrilled when the last one was no longer on the website. A couple of times I went and visited them before they were adopted and they didnt even remember me! It was a great place and I will take more kittens there if it happens again. Course now I want to foster! I still miss having a kitten around - but I take in the strays and find them homes now - so my neighborhood is almost strayless! That works really well to make you feel good too! Sorry this was sooooo long a answer, but every little bit helps
2006-12-04 16:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Paula G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I foster kittens and cats all the time. I know exactly what you are going through. The first time I took a litter of kittens back to the shelter, I had to go visit them everyday, I missed them so much. Eventually, they were all adopted out. They won't suffer in the cages...remember, cats are very adaptable. Volunteers will play with them and it's the only way people can see them to adopt. Right now I have a mom and her 4 kittens, I love them to death, but I can't keep them (wish I could). I already have 4 of my own. Please don't stop fostering, they really need us to get a good start in life. You are doing a wonderful thing!
2006-12-04 13:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by kiki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
except a kitten is an orphan, it should be fostered with mum and siblings. Why in the international might want to you opt for to take a small kitten remote from it is mum and siblings? Kittens study lots from being with their mom and taking section in with their siblings, esp with regards to behaviour. as an example, a kitten will study what's suitable behaviour and if it performs too style of mum will make it sparkling that isn't perfect. Kittens taken remote from mum and siblings too youthful in many situations improve as a lot as be biters because they have no longer learnt that. in case you opt for to foster that is excellent, yet fostering a pregnant cat ability fostering the entire muddle. in case you dont' opt for to attempt this then you definately can consistently foster an man or woman cat. keep in mind that fostering is for the convenience of the cat no longer the fosterer (even if the fosterer might want to likely income from the adventure!).
2016-11-23 17:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself...you can't own them.
They deserve to be in a good home, no? You need to step back and take your emotions under control. You knew going into this that you were only a foster parent. They deserve a better home than they had, and while you wish you could provide that, you know in your heart that they will have a lovely home. People love kittens like that.
I know it's hard, but you need to move on. They deserve good homes, and next year you can't provide them with the homes they deserve.
2006-12-04 12:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait you have your whole life in front of you, there will always be kittens but if you do want more kittens I've found that cats are e pretty much low maintenance, if you go out of town there isn't anyone to you know maybe feed them or change the cat litter like instead of a babysitter you'll have a cat-sitter!
2006-12-04 13:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mary R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave those kittens their first taste of a human and shaped them for the rest of their lives! Be happy in that, and thank you for not keeping them now knowing you are moving. Every shelter needs foster people so you can have a perpetual string of kittens if you want (in Florida, anyway, it's kitten season all year around, unfortunately).
2006-12-04 12:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to let them go, but you need to remember that without your help they may not have made it as far as they did. I currently have a foster dog that is going on three months, so I know how you feel. You just have to know you did the best for them that you could and move on.
2006-12-04 14:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by flowergirl1994 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they'll do just fine and find a great home. If you took good care of them they should grow up to be good cats and people will be more willing to have them as pets. Just remember that you did them a favor by letting them be adopted by someone that can keep them long term!
2006-12-04 12:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have done such a wonderful service for these very lucky little kitties..they will be fine...the other little kitties will be built in playmates and more than likely, someone will adopt them who will fall madly in love with them..you gave them the chance to be adopted...so get a new foster kitten, and love it and get it ready for its life with some lucky human..and when your life settles down, go to a shelter and take home two kitties..remember that the older cats have a harder time getting adopted...choose wisely...and love them love them love them
2006-12-04 12:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by OliveRuth 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋