This takes the guilt and anxiety out of relationships if you can play the field.
2006-12-04 11:09:45 · 8 answers · asked by alpha_trolls 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah, the common misconceptions about both subjects arise here.
First, neither polyamory or swinging is "playing the field". That insinuates you are just hanging-out here until something better comes along. That swingers and polys are not firmly committed to each other. Nothing could be further from the truth.
IN BOTH SWINGING AND POLYAMORY, COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE RULE, NOT THE EXCEPTION.
Sure, there are those that enter swinging on shakey relationship ground thinking it will "fix" or "spice-up" a failing relationship. But true swinging couples can swing successfully BECAUSE they are very committed to each other and don't have any of the petty jealousies that many other couples face. The amount of trust between the husband and wife is immense. They know that no one else is a threat to their marriage, that they will grow old together, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do they part.
It's not replacement sex. It's additional sex. Nothing more.
Of course, many can't seperate sex from love, so they practice what I like to call "serial monogamy", the practice of moving from one person to the another, but since it is in the context of a "relationship" it is justifiable to themselves, their family, their friends, and society in general.
The practice of polyamory is all about a committed relationship, it's just a committed relationship with more than one person. All three (or more sometimes) members of the relationship are equal There is no "third" in the relationship. Everyone is "firsts".
Imagine how much you are in love with your partner. Now imagine being that in love with two people, but just as much in love. I think everyone has this happen to them at one time or another during their life, being in love with two people at the same time. Some are able to break free of conventionality and live that life. Others struggle with it, resolve themselves to where they are and live-on. Still others break-up and move-on to the other person as mentioned above in "serial monogamy".
This is a hard concept to wrap your mind around if you've been raised in a typical Western social culture where "one person, one love" has been taught. Trying to explain these concepts to someone that has never been there is allot like trying to explain what swimming in the ocean is like to someone whose never done it, or even seen it for that matter. You simply can't.
2006-12-05 07:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
True...but I did the dating thing for 30 years. There isn't anything greater than waking up everyday with someone who has your back, thinks your beautiful even with morning hair and bad breath and loves you more today than yesterday. Finding that person is the hardest part.
2006-12-04 19:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swinging would be cool if i had a partner but polyamory i dont know
2006-12-04 19:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by PASSION 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that destroys the purpose of a relationship: committment
If I want to do that, I'll be single.
2006-12-04 19:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kami 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, definately there would be no commitment which at least for me is the defining element of a relatioship. like my mommy used to say you can't have it all (or everyone)
2006-12-04 19:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Wild_Lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely don't agree with it. But to each his own.
2006-12-04 19:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me , I don't like to share :)
2006-12-04 19:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-04 19:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋