I messed up....help!?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 months. Either of us have not had a relationship like this before (we hang out almost everyday with him asking almost everytime). I'm 22 and he's 21. I guess I got too comfortable with him and asked for a ring for sometime in the future. I didn't mean an engagement ring but just a promise ring (not meaning that we would be together forever jus that we are together right now) because i have other friends who have gotten rings in this amount of time but I know that everyone is different. At first he was okay with the idea but I guess I talked about it a little too much and after he did research he realized what geting me a ring meant. I didn't mean to scare him into thinking we were going to get married but he got scared and almost broke up with me.

I dropped asking him for a ring right away when I found out he had a problem with it but I think he still is scared about it.

How do I make this right?

Answer 1

i think your mind is playing tricks on you.. 2 months is way too soon to be thinking about marriage (or even promise rings that will lead to marriage). i think you may be more in love with the idea of marriage than the idea of being married to him.

he may think you are very needy and klingy.. and that's not good. he may have been scared off for sure.. the last thing you should be doing at 21 and 22 is thinking about marriage. just enjoy each other's company and learn to enjoy life and enjoy partnership.

as hard as it may be, you'll need to step back and cool things for a while.. give him that space. the fact that he didn't break up with you is a sign that he still wants you and still wants to build the relationship, but just at a much slower pace..

Answer 2

Tell him that it really isn't that important to you. Explain that in your friend's relationship... she received a ring and you thought it was the thing to do. Tell him that you've thought about it a lot and realize that it made him uncomfortable and that if you were in his shoes you too would be uncomfortable. Say... Forget about the ring. I just want to be with you and be happy. A ring (although a symbol of love, friendship, promises etc.) is after all... just a ring and you'd prefer to have him over a ring any day. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 3

Being a guy, I know how this one goes. I have had to deal with this with my ex-ex girlfriend. 2 months isn't enough time in most guys to make that kind of investment. I have been with my girlfriend for 10 months and I plan on getting her a engagement ring sometime in the near future. You might want to wait for a year or so to push the subject again. Guys mostly don't like being rushed.

Answer 4

well thats what u get for following all ur friends cause they got a ring. what does a mean really nothing is not gonna better or worsen the relationship. first mistake u did ask him u dont ask a guy 4 ring if he wants to give a ring he will not because u ask him. i dont know how to fix it now hes all paranoid thinking u wanna stay with him 4 ever. why girls always thinking about material things like thats gonna better the relationship???

Answer 5

tell him that the ring isnt an engagment ring.and let him know that you werent meaning to scare him into the whole marriage thing.And just tell him that you felt really comfortable with the way that your relationshipp was going so you thought that u would ask. or tell him that you got a little carried away talking about the whole "getting you a ring thing".anyway i dont know if that helped but good luck!i wish u the best!

Answer 6

If he really likes and or liked you why would he run from a commitment, I think you need to reevaluate his actions, and how he really feels about.

This is no way to act for a guy that has been dating any girl for that amount of time, regardless of if it was just a ring.

I do think you could have waited longer before brining up a ring, but his actions sound horrible.

Some guys use women for things, and you know exactly what I mean, so is this was real he will undertand, if not please move, it's just not worth it in the end. :)

Answer 7

haha u make me laugh!! ok 1st off a promis ring means u will mary him someday!! 2nd of all it was only 2 months haha!! man i thought i was stupid 4 askin my guy 4 a ring after 1 year!!! hahaha!!! i am sorry 4 laughin so much its jus so funny!!!! but yea if u wana make it right u can tell him u were jus kidin or u could b like i kno its too soon 4 u to get me a ring but mayb in a year or so after we have been together 4 a while mayb u could give me one but i am not expectin it of u!! n u kno i like u n i dont want to do anything that would upsat that!!

Answer 8

Let hime see this. if he sees this, he will know that you were really just rtying to get a ring for fun or w/e and plus you really ment it because you put the question on the intenet to get help. If that doesnt change his mind then He might be a little off. Or before that you could just talk to him about it and say what you said in your question.
Hope this helps!

Answer 9

Be honest about what you were hoping for in a ring - that he enjoyed being with you and nothing more. Tell him - it's too early for a long term commitment and be honest that you want him to be comfortable with the idea before he actually got you one - if ever.

Answer 10

Wow, ring talk is a little soon. i've been engadged 3 times. im not sared of commitment im scared of crazy women. most women change when they get a ring maybe he is content with the relationship as it is. as far as making everything better. he is young he will ajust whats done is done and becarful next time, if he cares for you he will get over it, maybe even get you the ring after all.