I did the most rediculous things the last month we were together. I got Possesive, Controlling and most of all insecure. I have been a man on hormone replacement thereapy for over 10 years but things just seemed to get to me and I kind of flipped out there for a little while. I got off the hormones and now feel much better...Now how do I get her back. She left me scared 2 weeks ago.
2006-12-04 10:44:23 · 10 answers · asked by emourelatos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, I understand where your coming from but look at your question.
How do I GET my fiance to forgive me!.... You are still in control in this scenario. You need to let go dude!! Give her space and give her time.
Unfortionately you ruined her trust in you and that's not something that you can just GET someone to do again.
I think you're best bet will be to calm down spend a lot of time alone and wait for her to come back to you. Let her make some decisions and apologize sincerely. I'm not sure of all that happened but it seems to me you need to realize that you're not in control of the situation and the only thing that is going to MAKE her come back to you is her.
Give her space, see a counselor it might help...
2006-12-04 10:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are willing to go to therapy of sorts.. Tell her you want to get better and mean it! I been there done that.. The man i was with was so bad that i had no choice but to leave.. I am telling you this because then maybe seeing another perspective may help.. When i left i had to stay with the neighbors because all my money was his money so umm.. i had very little and couldn't get a place right away. He was so furious that when we went to get my things he was trying to hide important things to use as leverage to get me to talk to him again.. Then when i told him not to call anymore he came peeping into the windows at the neighbors.. calling the house number i was at so many times that it left no choice but for them to ask me to talk to him so he would stop.. Then it got to the point when he found out i changed all my passwords to my bank accounts and online things it pist him off so bad that he again was starting to call even more.. stating he has rights to all my things.. anyways it then got to the point he was stalking me.. I had finally moved and didn't want him to find me.. his aunt owned an avis car rental.. so he was driving god only knows what to hunt me down... It finally came down to him threatening me and me fearing for me and my sons safety.. Please get the help... so i had to get a restraining order.. which has kept him away now for almost a year.. thank god.. But please get help.. If you truly care for her.. she will take note that you really do want to change.. Until then don't call her to often and kep your distance.. but when you do talk tell her how sorry you are and that you want her to help you fix it..
2006-12-04 10:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by GirlWithQuestions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first , you should be sure that you will be able to stop being controlling and aggressive, if so , call her and describe the situation to her and ask for another chance, and meanwhile show her that you respect her and that you never want to control her independent personality and show admiration of every little detail about her.
if she loves you , she will get over it.
good luck
2006-12-04 10:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you did not hit her. I mean you got to learn to control yourseft. A controlling relationship only leads to damage. Get it under control before it get to big of a deal. It always start this way. Get It Under Control!!
2006-12-04 10:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by shyboo91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her calmly and succinctly just what you told us here. Speak calmly and with candor. I might be wrong, but I think females in general might be more understanding of the hormonal tidal waves. Good luck.
2006-12-04 10:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and explain to her what happened if she will not accept any of you calls write her a letter(not E-mail this is more personal). Just basically let her know how you feel about her. Hope this helped you out.
2006-12-04 10:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by kim806 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest and explain to her exactly what happened. Then you'll have to win her trust back and assure her this will never happen again. If you get her to come back, she will need time Just tell her the truth, always works best
2006-12-04 10:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by bobbie v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try humbling yourself and stay that way. talk to her and show no anger, explain to her whats been going on.you can not only tell someone you have changed you have to also show them
2006-12-04 10:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you love her and it is because you adore her so much that you look out for her.
2006-12-04 10:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Black 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3-SOME
2006-12-04 10:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by dce1dg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋