What sort of level of "growth" should a 7 year old girl be at. I think ours has us ( and her mother) wrapper around her little finger. She's only just started using a fork to eat with (no knife yet) needs help in the bath, can't brush her hair, washing up etc. I remember when I was 7 and things were a lot different.
2006-12-04 10:32:20 · 6 answers · asked by Mary F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I think she is just being lazy - her mother doesn't teach her anything - but as her stepmum (access every 2nd weekend and 1 night a week) I don't think its my place... She's calls me bossy boots as it is - i make her wash her hands before dinner, tidy her room and eat with her mouth closed - just the simple simple things... but even they're hard. She's certainly not slow in anyway though. Extremely good at school. Think she's just playing "mum and against dad against me" games...
2006-12-04 10:49:47 · update #1
Actually think you may have hit the nail on the head - She's a spoilt brat. Her mother hounds my husband for money constantly - mind you she gets paid a fortune every fortnight. She won't buy her daughter one stuffed toy, she'll buy 20.Yet, she comes around to us dirty and in tattered clothes... she can be a really sweet kid when she's one on one with me, but once her mum and dad arrive, she turns into a precosious little cow... and treats me like ****
2006-12-04 10:56:55 · update #2
sounds like she was dotted on quite a bit. what does she do when she is at school? I am sure she can do all of those things, but chooses not to for attention. sorry....not to be rude. I dotted on my son for a long time when I was a single mother and he did the same because he was a bit jealous of my husband. Have her do it herself, and let her take the time to do it (within one session), otherwise it will frustrate everyone. sit down with your wife and talk to her about setting these things up for the girl. the talk to the girl and tell her the things she is going to have to do by herself.
good luck.
2006-12-04 10:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mary, I am so sorry that you are in this situation. Being a step parent is the hardest thing a woman could ever do.. first KUDOS to you for taking on that role! It sounds like she CAN do it.. she just doesnt WANT to. At 7, she has been shown how to do these things by actions. When a child is a baby, most people do not tell them how to put on a sock, but they learn from example. At 7, your St dau has learned these things. You are enabling her to walk on you and your husband. I am sure you are getting tired of having to treat her like she is 2. However, she is loving it. I am sure that she wears the pants in your family. You MUST stop this behavior. For dinner, make somthing that MUST be eaten with a utensil. Tell her that it is expected that she eats with such. When dinner is done, tell her it is time for a bath. Run the water, and tell her it is time for her bath. Make her take one alone. Tell her she is a big girl now, and she should be doing this alone. If she throws a fit, then take a toy away, and keep going.. until she gets the message. This is touchy being a step parent, but make sure your hubby is on board with this. Do not let her act like this. She is treating you horribly. I am gathering that you have no BIO children, if that is the case, there is a "support group" called Childless Step mothers on yahoo. Below I have posted the link to join. I am part of it, and I have "gathered" a few from yahoo answers to join as well. The only stipulation is, you CANNOT have children of your own. If this is the case.. then join! It is so wonderful knowing that there are others out there going through, or have went through what you are. Great place to vent!!! Good Luck Mary.. and remember, YOU are the ADULT.. Help her, she needs YOU! :O)
2006-12-04 19:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by WestWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be concerned. Developmentally this child is way behind. I wonder, how is she doing in school? Most children are eager to do "grown up" things, either her Mother is holding her back or there is a concerning issue that needs to be addressed.
You might want to discuss her scholastic behavior w/ the appropriate people and then with a pediatrician that can direct you to the right person to help.
2006-12-04 18:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is spoiled and I know exactly what you are talking about I met my 11 yr old stepdaughter now when she was 7 and she still plays me against her mom and dad. Plus side for us she lives with us and visits her mom. If you are stepmom you have every right to tell her things she needs to do. Hopefully u have a supportive husband. Good luck and god bless.
2006-12-04 19:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she is a *****.hahahhahahahhahah dont let her boss u around. and stop doing all those things 4 her ask her teacher 2.
2006-12-04 19:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Name 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is pure laziness and for attention as well.
2006-12-04 20:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Calais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋