2006-12-04 10:14:50 · 23 answers · asked by IwishicoulddeleteYahooAnswers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends how soon you make yourself available on all levels. How soon you make closure and are ready to delve into new relationships.
If you keep hanging on to all your past experiences and keep comparing subconsciously or talking about situations to new people, it will take much longer.
Eventually you will be up to 100 % available and then you'll be equal to the rest of the contenders in the rat race. Then its back down to your attributes and personality.
I broke up with my girlfriend of nearly three years some 14 months ago now and apart from one very short relationship and a friew new female friends, it still hasn't happened again. Other people recycle much quicker.
There is no real answer to that one. With a world population of 6,000,000,000 souls, half of one sex or the other, its a bit like playing the lotto... and hoping you'll get a good prize and not a motheaten teddybear.
2006-12-04 10:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by NotsoaNonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After the break up of my 9 year marriage, I read an ad in the lonely hearts column of my local newspaper and simply could not ignore it. It seemed to stand out from the page and I HAD to respond immediately. I had a telephone call from the lady in response to my letter and we talked on the phone for ages. We were really comfortable with each other. I asked her out for dinner and we had a fantastic evening. We both new on that first date that this relationship was just meant to be. After a few weeks we were living together and I remember friends and colleagues warning me that it was far too soon to get into another serious relationship. As soon as our respective divorces came through we were married. We met in 1976 and have now been married for 29 years.
Don't expect to be as lucky as me because it may not come about, but if and when it does happen, trust your heart and don't let an opportunity pass you by.
Good Luck
2006-12-04 18:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by dawleymouse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you come out of a long term relationship you need some time on your own. If you dont then you will carry the baggage of your last affair into the next. Dont rush into things. Learn to be by yourself and enjoy yourself with friends and family. I know that it can be frightening to suddenly be on your own, even if its you that ended the relationship, but you need time to get over all of your mixed up feelings before you can even begin to think of trying it all again with someone else. Good luck.
2006-12-04 19:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by The Redhead 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got out of a five year relationship in September (officially off, we first broke up in December) and I got more guy problems that I can handle!!
Finding men is not hard, but finding ones that are actually worth it is much harder. Guys nowadays, Im finding out, just like to play games and oh goodness do I hate games!
I will say you hang out with your girls and enjoy your time with them and you will see how men come about...it will come naturally as long as you have an open mind and take on a good attitude.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 18:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in any hurry. Getting into a relationship right now would only be rebounding. Not good. Take some time for yourself. Take a trip. Become a voluteer for a charity. Go back to school. Take up a hobby. In short, do something else that is good for you. When the time is right, that new relationship will find you.
2006-12-04 18:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by blondee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A while. Don't jump into just any relationship. I just got out of a 4 year relationship in February and it's really tough even letting go of the guy (for me). So take your time. Find your place in the world - don't worry about men right now. Think of yourself.
2006-12-04 18:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Niko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to rediscover your girl friends and go on some girlie nights out. Head to places where there are loads of blokes and rate them with your mates.
You can dare each other to use the most stupid chat up lines- me and my friend did that the other night.
I saw the sexiest guy I've seen in ages, sitting, chatting with his chubby friend who was blocking my view. I went up to them and said to Sexy, 'Are you two an item?' He smiled at me and said no. At the same time he was rubbing the palm of his hand up the back of my thigh! So I said- 'I bet you've got a gorgeous girlfriend waiting for you at home.' He said he didn't so I gave him my number. Me and my friends were in stitches- we had so much fun!! PLUS later in the week I met up with Sexy and we had a major snog-fest!
That's what you need to do right now- forget about searching for another relationship, you could be doing it on the rebound. Just get out there, strut your stuff and have loads of FUN!
Easier said than done after a break-up- I know, but if you've got good friends, they'll rally round and help out.
Good Luck!
2006-12-04 18:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it takes, no one ca tell you that. I'd advise waiting a while if you've not long come out of a relationship though, be happy just being you again first.
2006-12-04 18:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by serephina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take your time the right one will come along have some fun before i had a long time relationship and was very happily single for 2 yrs before i met my man now together 20 yrs and married for 17yrs
2006-12-04 18:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by sandra l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rebound relationships rarely work. give yourself lots of time to clear your mind and come to peace with the relationship you just ended.. take some time to let your emotions and frustations get thru your system.. take some time to reflect on the good and bad things that happened.. learn from your mistakes and refocus yourself.
2006-12-04 18:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋