Military FianceS?

Question

What do you think of military fiances? I am engaged to a guy who is about to start training to be an Army Ranger... a lot of people view this as a negative thing. What is your view on that?

Answer 1

A lot of people view it as a negative thing bc they could never deal with it. My boyfriend is in the Air force and hes in CA im in FL, Ive been with him for more than 2 years and im about to go to college over there. I've only seen him 2 times this year. I see the stress he goes through with his job, but if you can support each other through all that then it just make syou stronger than everyone else.

Answer 2

Its a hard life being married to a military man in the lower ranks, make sure you have a high school education if not a college one before you get married.

... since your in love with him ... life in the military can be rewarding as well ... make sure you know how to budget money, you have a vehicle/insurance, because going into military quarters/housing takes time ... there are waiting list, up to 3 yrs in some places, and to get medical insurance thru Tricare, ( I guess its still called that) cost as well ...
not having him/her around all of the time, moving every two years or so, this has disadvantages and well as advantages, remember the budget, deposits on apt's, phone, electricity, how far away you are from the post .. so your vehicle is going to take fuel ... and make sure your have a savings acct.
... seeing other countries to live in other than the US ... and really seeing what the other people have to contend with ... then appreciate what you have here ..

Get into a church or the post chapel ... get involved by working outside of the home while he's gone, weather its volunteering for the American Red Cross or a paying job (The Post Exchange or Commissary) ... that way you won't fall into the trap about feeling lonely while he's gone ... There are other people that want to see you fail as a couple.

Answer 3

I met my wife in the Navy. We are both out now.

Most people who view the military spouse/fiance thing as negative are those who have experienced or witnessed a bad example. And most of those examples involve cheating on the s/o.

My opinion on that is if the person is going to cheat, it won't take the military lifestyle to bring it out. In other words, they would likely be cheating regardless of their jobs/situations.

The other real downside is that the separation proves real difficult on couples. You will be coping with 3-6 month separations...that is tough on anyone, and you won't know how you handle it until it happens. If you can get by the separation aspect, and have a healthy, trusting relationship, you will be fine.

Now, here is the question for you: why not go on and get married already? Fiance's have no benefits, spouses do. Extra pay for the hubby, base housing, medical, etc.

Good luck in all!

Answer 4

Do not waste his time if you aren't willing to be patient and wait for him during any tours or training. The divorce rate is over 50% in the military as is. Be sure of yourself and him. Support him and love him. While some dont agree with the militarys intentions, we DO make the world safer in most ways. My ex fiances brother told her to get rid of me the first time I met him because I was in the military. Now I wish she would've listened to him but just because I am in the military? C'mon? The only negative is that you may be raising a child on your own temporarily but they will love and respect him for it. Be true and faithful.

Answer 5

Prepare yourself for a long lonely road. I am a military wife. They are away alot for deployments and training, but if you love him every tear and every goodbye is worth it. Everytime he comes home from being away it is like we are newlyweds all over again. It was really hard before we were married because of each others worries of being faithful and living hundreds of miles away. Once you are married and travel together it gets easier. My opinion is a military spouse has one of the hardest jobs in the world because you have soooo many shoes to fill. Any wife with children will tell you that. Good luck and God bless. Be proud of your man he is a hero and deserves a great big thanks.

Answer 6

I am retired Air Force. I can tell you for a fact that if you want a financially rich husband, this is not the way to go.

If you want a husband that has a job that both of you can be proud of and earns a decent salary that can take care of a family, this is a very strong option for you.

After some time in the Army he will qualify for housing on base for his family; wife or wife and kids. Nice housing, nice neighborhoods, no criminals or drugs allowed.

I had no intention of staying in the military after my first four years, but I enjoyed it so I stayed. My two sons were born during my time in the military; they cost me $25.00 each for the hospitalization; I had to pay for my wife's food.

Answer 7

Well I am a military wife and it is hard on you but you learn to adapt to it and go with the man you love. I don't know any body who puts down the military but you know people talk but who cares I say. Good Luck

Answer 8

If you love him, you'll support him no matter what. The "negative thing" you are hearing, let me guess, are close minded lib's that do not have a clue to what your fiance is striving to achieve. He needs your support and encouragement. If he is in hostile territory, the thoughts of you will help him thru it. Listen to your fiance and shut the "others" out. They will only bring you distress.

Answer 9

There's nothing negative about becoming a ranger, or with loving one. There'll be tough times, and he'll be gone a lot, you'll just have to come to peace with that. But if you love him, it'll work. I see 'em fall apart everyday, but I also see 'em last every day.

Answer 10

well, if your marrying him for money, then you've got the wrong guy. the army pay is alright. depends on what rank you are, how many children you have and how well you do with just one paycheck. the benefits are great though.