I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years, and before that we were best friends. I feel like I've been with him for so long that we're staying together more out of habit than because we want to. I don't know if I love him. Friday night I was at a sleepover with a group of friends and this one guy I have a crush on gave me a back massage for 1 1/2 hours. We were flirting all night.
I think i might like him but i don't know if it's worth breaking up a 2 1/2 year relationship with my best friend. HELP!
2006-12-04 10:08:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps he broke up with me over 3 dollars that he claimed i owed him because he lent me paper. it was a joke but he ended up being an asshole about it and the break up lasted 4 months. I've never cheated on him and I wouldn't ever. I would break up with him first.
I just feel like he doesn't like me as much anymore and that we only got back together because he missed the physical part of our relationship
2006-12-04 10:16:56 · update #1
I think it would be best to not flirt with some other guy and let some other dude rub up on you if you're still in a relationship. You owe it to your so-called "best friend" to not be like that with him. If you're not in love with him then why keep him around? If you do only care for him as a best friend then don't hurt his feelings by getting close to some other guy like you are doing. I would just tell him flat out that you love him but only as a friend and you'd like to start seeing other people. It's really not fair for you to string him along and be doing the things you're doing behind his back.
2006-12-04 10:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by devious805er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2.5 years isn't really that long... I mean... you're best friends. You both have put in time and commitment. I'm guessing you're in your HS years (yes?)
This guy is probably nothing more than an infatuation. I'm not one to believe in 'love at first sight' or maybe its backrub...
But I guess at this stage of your life... most people in highschool jump around from person to person. I don't think it's the proper thing to do, personally (I'm a senior in highschool). But I realize that _is_ what most kids do.
I'm sure your guy would give you a back massage as well. It's only a boring relationship because you let it become that way. You can still flirt with your guy even after you're together. Try something new with him or relive some of the few months when you were just getting together. Bring back old memories. See if you can't make it more fresh. Talk to your boyfriend as well. See what's going on with him. Communication is vital for a relationship.
Make a list of Pros and Cons for each decision... See what truly is best. (meh...works for me... I like lists...)
If the other guy seems more appealing and you're ready for a new relationship, I guess go ahead. But talk with your boyfriend... hopefully you can remain friends... if this new r'ship doesn't work out prepare yourself for some alone time...
Best Luck !
2006-12-04 10:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 11:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of five years because of the same thing: it seemed we were together just because of habit, but not really because we still were in love with each other.
Breaking up is hard, but staying together is worst.
I can't tell you to break up with your man or not, but it seems you prefer, just like me, to have freedom more than being in a relationship that you are unsure of.
Don't breakup only because you have a crush on someone. I did this and now Im in a worst shape than I was before because I messed around with my crush and now he is more interested in someone else other than me more.
Like that saying goes: "dont leave the one that loves you for the one that you like, because the one that you like will leave you for the one that they love." I'm barely now finding true meaning to what this quote is trying to tell me, and it sucks.
However, on the brighter side, my ex has been wanting me back forever and I could go back if I wanted to, Im just not willing to go back to him just yet.
SO, to recap, there are good and bad points in leaving him, you just got to check which are more important to you right now and which you think will make you happier.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 10:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well before you break up you need to think about who would you be sad over the most if this crush moved on and found someone would that make you sad or if your current guy did find another would you be sad just think things over and go from there
2006-12-04 10:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u should break up with ur old bf i mean if u stay with him not for love but because u hav to ur leading him on he obviously has more feelings 4 u than u hav 4 him as far as this new guy do u really lov him or do u think he is cute?
2006-12-04 10:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by mdmel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really think if your relationship is going anywhere. If its not going forward its going backwards and your not going where you want to go. Sometimes you need a break to understand people or things better. Sometimes you find your love is very strong other times you learn its not want you want. Good luck,
2006-12-04 10:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Didysis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should ask ur b/f if u 2 were to ever break up would u still be friends. and if he says yes then tell him u really like some1 else but u still want to b friends with him. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-04 10:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by kelley h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. It's not a good idea to stay with someone out of habit, that's boring and if he cares about you and you and him you will be able to still be friends.
2006-12-04 10:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by puppetmastersp99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never leave the one you love for the one you like. Sometimes you get tired of the same person , but it's better to try and work it out instead of trying something new and getting your feelings hurt.
2006-12-04 10:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by speechless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋