Question of regret ...?

Question

Is there a person that you regret not being with or a crush where you never told the person how you felt or a far away attraction where you never spoke with the person?

If so who?

I had a massive crush on a beautiful girl with strawberry blonde hair when I was in college. I never spoke to her. I saw her numerous times after college and never spoke to her. I think I will always regret it ...

Answer 1

I think a lot of people go through something similar to that when they are younger. The lesson is, of course, that if you're interested in getting to know someone, you should at least make an effort. Sometimes that is harder to do when you're a little shy.

In such cases, it's usually good to remember that even if you had spoken to the person, chances are very low that it ever would have turned into a long-term relationship. A first step is just that and nothing more. But sometimes we let our imaginations get the best of us, and we imagine, "If only I had spoken to him/her, we might be a couple now!"

I suppose that's only natural to some extent, but eventually you have to accept that it's nothing more than a fantasy and move on.

On the other hand, that kind of situation has been the source of a lot of great poetry writing through the century's. Petrarch's poems about his beloved Laura, to whom he never spoke, were based on exactly that kind of long-distance longing. So perhaps you could memorialize your crush with a poem as well!

Best of luck.