Potty Traning issues with 9 year old boy.............?

Question

My husband and I are married for about one year and he has a son from a previous marriage that is almost 9 years old. Unfortunately, his son is still not as of yet potty trained at night time. His son does live with his mother full time and she insists on him wearing pull ups at night. When we have him on weekends though he does not wear pull ups with us. We had tried to convince her to not have her son wear pull ups but it has been a loosing battle. It has been a year at this point and she believes that he will outgrow the pull ups eventually. Our thoughts are different, how can he outgrow pull ups if he has never been out of diapers. He rarely has a dry night and I he talks about it openly with us. I just wish I knew a way that we can all agree and get him out of pull ups. The goal is that and I am afraid that the bigger picture is just not clear to her. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

9 seems a little old for this problem. Have you thought of bringing him to the Dr.? There may be something else wrong.

Answer 2

The bast thing to is on weekends when he is with you, dont let him wear pull ups. Also, not letting him drink anything a couple hours before bed and making sure he uses the bathroom before bed. Also, wake him up every few hours the frist few nights to use the restroom liek Danelle said. As far as his mom goes, there really is nothing you or your husband can do. You can your husband can take the son to a pediatrician to get advice and then let his mom know what the doc said. Those are just some suggestions. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Wow. He is definitely too old for pull ups. What I suggest and this seems to be working good with my kids is no drinks at least 1 hour before bed and for the first few nights, wake him up every few hours or so so he can go to the bathroom. It will be hard waking every couple of hours but at least this way, he isn't peeing the bed. His mother really does need a better outlook on this. He is old enough to know that he's too old for them. Cant he simply refuse to wear them or does she force them on him? I didn't think they made pull ups for his size. I know you cant do the things i suggested except for the weekends but maybe you could buy him an alarm clock so he can set it his self and get his self up during the night to use the bathroom. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I'm a teacher's assistant in a day care center, I help teach 2-3 year olds. So I do know alot about potty training. Naptime & bed time are when most kids will wet the bed. This does take time, some longer than others, due to stress, drinking to much before bedtime, or bladder problems....the list goes on & on !!!!! Sounds like to me the mom still wants her "baby" and this doesnt seem to bother her that he may have a problem. I think you & your husband needs to take him to the doctor, tell him whats going on. Also make sure he goes to the bathroom before bed, then in about 3 hours you or your husband wake him up, help walk him to the bathroom, then again make sure he goes. I'm sure this is very embassing for the boy that age to be wearing pull-ups. Sounds like his mother is just lazy aslo too me!!!! Good luck to ya all

Answer 5

I think that you should be consulting with a good pediatrician, possibly a urologist, and maybe a psychologist.

I know nothing about this subject whatsoever, but it does seem strange to have a 9-year old that still wets the bed? I hope you will consult some medical experts and perhaps do some research about this issue.

I am not sure asking strangers -- the peanut gallery-- on Yahoo! answers is the best way to go about solving this.

Answer 6

9 is a bit late - i usualy am not a fan of therapists or doctors but in this case i think a trip to the doctor is best - they could well be something wrong with him. or and this is something to consider, bed wetting could well be a reaction to his parents splitting up, it could be his way of copeing with the stress

yes their is a chance he chould just be slow, but by 9 thats a very small chance, just see the doctor see what he says.

for now - come 50/50 with the mom - pullups are for toddlers and i am suprized they fit a 9 year old, try getting him some goodnites or drynites, their pyjama pants/diapers type things but their much for suited for older children. its not ideal but its a start as they are almost real underwear.

once you have agreed to this, you need dad to slap this mom - if he was 4 or 5 id agree let him grow out of it, but that clearly isnt working, kids dont just grow into things, they have to be taught, and that includeds night time potty trainning, you need a serious talk with your husband, tell him this and get her to start doing her bit as well. what you need to do is this


1. less drinks at night time
2. waking him up 2/3 hours after he has gone to bed (just before you go to bed) to use the toilet, and keep doing this every night untill he starts getting up himself and doing it.
3. instead of diapers/nappys get a plastic bedsheet cover. so if he wets the bed it does not go into the matress.

Answer 7

Night time bed wetting issues are typical with boys of that age and on up to about 12, due to the bladder sometimes growing slower than the body.

Make sure he gets nothing to drink after about 6pm and goes to the bathroom before bed.

Also, have the mom talk to the Dr. about it on his next visit as there may be a medical explanation.

Answer 8

He may have a bed wetting problem. Which, there's nothing to worry about. I had one, but I wasn't as old as him. What worked with my problem, is I wasn't allowed to have drinks before bed. I had to use the bathroom before bed. And I would be woken up at times during the night to use the bathroom. It helped, so maybe you should try that.

Answer 9

9 years old? I think you should take him to the doctor. There could be something wrong with him.

Answer 10

omg you have to be kidding? excuse me for saying this but shouldnt your step-son should be already pottied train. he should of learned when he reached the age of 1 years old. just train him to go to potty.