Please don't be immature or rude. This is a serious question. What do you do when you can't deal with it? I am not a religious person, I just feel that when you are with someone that you claim to love, you don't sneek behind their back to look at other women. Anyone have any real suggestions on how to deal with this? Am I just being overbearing?
2006-12-04 09:46:52 · 12 answers · asked by sherry s 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I wouldn't consider this over bearignat at all... If he trully loves you then he would do anything for you... meaning that he would stop if he asked him to....if you have already tried that and he hasnt than i would be persistent... if you trully love him back then help hijm through this by giving him support for not doing this.. just keep talking to him....if you are having second guesses then i woul kick himn to the curb... that is just what i would do
2006-12-04 09:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I didn't really care until one day he started watching it while I was sitting there. The more he kept bringing up the angrier I got. I didn't want to be controlling and make him stop, since he has been addicted a long time, but it infuriated me. I couldn't help but act upset, because to me it is a way of cheating, because he is imagining himself with these women. I told him how upset I was about it and he said he would do it less if not completely stop, so I feel a little better about it. But I wish he would stop completely. I definately don't think you are being overbearing, I would just talk to him about it and hopefully he will understand.
2006-12-04 17:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by fuzzibuzz1408 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go porn-crazy: ask to make it together, have him "catch" you watching it, pretty much obsess over it. Maybe he's so into it because it's such a verboten thing. If he realizes it isn't as thrilling as it was before, he may stop.
I would also begin throwing away his movies a little at a time, enough so that he doesn't notice. You're not being overbearing at all. That's just frustrating.
2006-12-04 18:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by <3 <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn ROCKS! but seriously, if you come to an end of ideas you could always make "private porn" yourself and leave it in a place that he will find, make sure to leave a note or something so he doesent get any other creative ideas as to why you got nekked.
then after he sees them ask him politely to quit looking at so much porn all the time (it is almost physicly imposible for someone to completely stop looking at porn so offer a truce by saying "so much")
2006-12-04 18:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by dark_desparado66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having him watch gay (guy on guy) porn with you. See how he feels with that. Cuz, I'm sure he's into the whole girl-on-girl porn thing right? If the gay porn makes him squirm a bit, maybe you can finally explain to him just how uncomfortable you feel with him constantly watching porn. Worth a try...doesn't sound like you've got anything to lose anyway.
2006-12-04 18:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. "D" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see anything wrong with it..he may be learning some new techniques do spice up the bed room ...and maybe you should watch it with him and pick out things that you would might try, this would make things easier, just be open with him.....but hey aleast his not going out on you....sex is great, just got to be open with you partner, this will make it even more fantastic....try it..
2006-12-04 18:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by jdog44442003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um try watching it with him if he knows (thinks) you enjoy it too. He will not have the desire to watch it. Oh also try to preform just as they do. That really helps. Enjoy yourself
2006-12-04 17:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by afishmaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be right and he is addicted to it. He either needs to get help, or you need to move on before you waste your time.
2006-12-04 17:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by thunder2sys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be helpful. check out some posts about sexual disorders
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-12-04 20:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry this is something we all guys do....it is just like that we like it, but that doesn't mean we are gonna leave our girls (our very own life like partners) for a bunch of pieces of papers, dvd's or files......
2006-12-04 17:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋