about two weeks ago, my grandma passed away. she had been sick for quite a long time, 2 years, but about 3 months ago she was diagnosed with a cancer. she felt really sick and my mom was always with her, taking care of her...now she passed away nad lately i have been feeling really depressed and every time i hear a song, it reminds me of her....i only think about her and how much i miss her....what can i do?
2006-12-04 09:26:57 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Do just what you are doing. It's very human and normal to feel the loss for a while. Remember that your Grandma is in a much happier place now, and she would want you to be happy! Remember the wonderful things about your Grandma, not her illness. Sorry for your loss, it's never an easy thing.
2006-12-04 09:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by mama 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
this is very common to miss your loved ones more during the holiday's also it has been so resent that you are still grieving you loss of her. I lost my mom Dec.3 1988 and every year for the whole month I miss her more than I do the rest of the year. I am sorry that you lost her. It is sad. People may say just get over it. ignore those people. She will always have a special place in your heart. Bless you I hope you feel better soon
Remember her and she will always be with you
2006-12-04 17:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable to think about someone that you loved and that person has passed away...there's nothing wrong with that. Just don't think about the time that she was suffering before she passed. Think about the good times you shared with her and know that she is no longer suffering. See if you can find some old photos of her in happier times. If you're still depressed after a little while, seek some sort of counseling with your mom, or a pastor or minister. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you feel better soon.
2006-12-04 17:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember the times your grandmoter made you happy, as well as making sure you are occupied with other things, even other worries. Time heals all wounds, but only if that time is not spent wallowing in sorrow. Death is a fact of life, what defines life truly. You need to find a way to deal with it because the older you get, the more you will be confronting it around you. Be strong, I know you can (that you are aware of your sorrow and are seeking a way to overcome it, rather than just be depressed and not try o solve the problem, speaks of your strength). Tomorrow always brings another day, with a sunrise as well as a night. Life has a similar cycle. Accept it for what it is and learn to cherish the life you have and the lives you experience around you. Do not let the death of a loved one soil your otherwise happy days. It will pass, I promise, with time.
2006-12-04 17:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by TwilightWalker97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for you and your family. I know there is no words that can take away that kind of pain and loss.
But you have to look at it this way. At least she is not suffering from such a painful disease. I lost my best friend to cancer eight years ago. It still hurts. But I know that he is not in that kind of pain anymore and I try to remember all the good times we had when I feel sad. So just be there with your mom and help her as well. You both will help each other get through this. God Bless you all.
2006-12-04 17:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Biker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always difficult when someone you love passes on, but you must remember your grandma would want you to be happy and move on with your life. Focus on the good memories and do something in memory of her (donate to a charity, throw a party in her honor, etc). Don't let yourself fall into a depression, because that is the last thing your grandma would want. In time, you will find that when you think of her, you smile instead of crying.
2006-12-04 17:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by sueflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is all a natural part of a grieving process that takes a while ...it is o.k. to feelthat sense of loss...and you will continue to for a while...just dont deny the feelings of greif and aknowledge that you are hurting and sad...you need to process the sadness and that can only be done over time , talk to your mom as she is probably hurting more,and you need to console each other...it really does help...in the past 3 years i have lost both parents and a close friend so I have been and still am in your shoes. Hang in there it does get better.
2006-12-04 17:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is sad, isn't it? I remember when my grandmothers died. It felt awful. However, you'll feel better with time. It's OK to feel sad. It's part of the grief process. But it will not last forever. Just be thankful that your grandmother was taken care of by your Mom who must be a very lovely person. Many grandparents are left to die alone or are put in old-age centers and are hardly visited.
Just remember that we must all die eventually ... even though we may be young, we will all get old and eventually die. I think your grandmother was blessed to have your Mom and you who obviously loved her very much. Reflect on that and you will feel better soon enough. My condolences to you and your family.
2006-12-04 17:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by maryc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what song?
anyways.
i know what you are going through. my grandma passed away in may. it was sad. she lived in a different country than i and the last time i saw her was two years back. she was my favorite grandma and i would always help her with anything and everything. i was depressed until like november. then i realized that she was old and had gone through many problems in her life. i understand now that she's in a better place. now she has no pain. i hope this helps. help deal with your depressment in a healthy way. i suggest exercising. feel better :]
2006-12-04 17:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by nikita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for your loss.
well maybe just get out of the house go over a friends house and just spend the day with them or talk with your mother she is feeling the same thing you are. You will feel like this for awile its normal just try not to get too down talk with poeple that might make you feel better or do things to get ur mind off of her for a little while its ok to no think about her for a little while. My husband has to do that about his mother its not that he forgets about her or anything its just if he thinks too much about her he gets too deprest. He lost his mother in 2000. Im sorry for your loss but it will get better over time it did for my husband. You will still feel hurt but it just wont be as painfull for you.
talk with your parents they now how you feel they are hurting too.
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-04 17:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋