first to all, i want to say hi, i found this page and decided to join for some advice and maybe try to help someone...
i have a girlfriend, and we dated for about 5 1/2 years. Just recently we had a fight about me having feelings 4 one of my friends. I never cheated on this girl, and even though she knows that, at the end she decided to break up with me. She tells me that she doesnt love me the way she used to. And even though she had tried to tell me about her feelings now it is to late that she cant love me again. All this took me by surprise, and i ask her to give me a chance to win her heart back but it didnt work b/c most of the times i got desperate and start asking her to love me back.
It has being a couple days since all of this just happen. She tells me she still care about me alot but the love for me is gone. I ask her if she could love me again but she doesnt know. Now she treats me like a friend and i dont know if i should keep trying or give some time to win her heart.
2006-12-04 09:24:37 · 14 answers · asked by AL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im sure she still loves you but she may be in denile about it. Give her time and space. I've been through the denile phase and it took me years to come out of it and I regret it. Keep hope but don't push it. Be her friend even if she eventually starts dating someone else b/c then you can be there for her when it's over and she'll realize the mistake she made. Just keep ahold of hope.
2006-12-04 09:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man my ex did the exact same thing to me 6 weeks ago. we were together for 4 1/2 yrs and she said that she just fell out of love too. i tryed the same things as you and nothing worked. Today it still cuts me and i feel empty and depressed, but i have just come to except the fact that us guys will never understand girls - no matter how well we think we know them.
Dude i know u probably dont wanna hear this, but i think u should at least just give it time (like a month or 2), or if u can just move on. i know how im feeling rite now and i wouldn't want my worst enemy feeling like this - so man u have to try ur hardest to be strong and keep ur head together and dont let it consume you and take over ur life cause it has the potential too.
good luck brother
2006-12-04 09:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try your best to win her back of course she is in love with you still or else she would let it go but she still loves you she just needs sometime to cooldown tell her she is the only person you have ever loved and that you care for her a lot and that you don't want a feeling for one of your friendships to end you and hers relationship do everything you can if she knows you since ya'll been dating for 5 1/2 years then I THINK she would know that you still love her give her some time she will come around eventually...KEEP FIGHTING FOR HER LOVE....good luck!!!! Hope I helped:)
2006-12-04 09:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by caramel_hispanic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be both one. you've purely been jointly for 4 months, so it is likely only a unusual day. What you want to do is plan a particular evening/date including her. once you've relaxing yet don't sense like she had a a possibility on the relaxing, you've gotten absolutely stopped loving her. in case you had relaxing and can want to relive the day lower back, you're purely having a unusual day.
2016-11-23 16:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give a little credit to yourself, you can't want someone who doesn't love you. What would be the point. When you are in a relationship, it has to be mutual for it to work. You can't expect to make it work without the main ingredient, Love. Find someone else that appreciates you and cares for you. Everyone deserves this.
2006-12-04 09:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's two sides to look at here..give her time, or just keep trying..coming from a girls point of view, here's the scoop..my boyfriend and i were dating for about a year when we started getting serious and he even asked me to marry him..well we ended up breaking up, and now i can't find a way to win his heart back..i've just given up on him and moved on..but coming from me, i would say that you should give her some time to sort things out..don't call her, don't talk to her unless she talks to you..then she'll realize how much she misses you and hopefully she'll come running back to you!!
at least, it would work for me..
good luck
2006-12-04 09:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie if she doesn't love you the way she used to and she can't handle the way she loves you there is no sense if going back. you are BOTH going to have to make it work to get back to together not just one of you. she has to WANT to love you. if she doesn't want to get things back to the way they used to be there you are just wasting your time.
give her some time. sometimes a person's true feelings are revealed once they lose someone or don't have them around anymore.
2006-12-04 09:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes once someone doesn't love you anymore you can't force them to love you and you can't force someone to be with you so I would move on and time does heal all wounds someday it will work out again
2006-12-04 09:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. There's no way you change someone's mind. Just keep busy and hopefully she'll come around. Good luck!
2006-12-04 09:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bebe1016 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were TRULY in love with her, then you never would have even had your eye on any one else. If you loved her so much, then no one else would matter, and you wouldnt like anyone else.
2006-12-04 09:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋