My 9 yo son is asking questions about sex - how specific with the answers do i get?

Answer 1

be basic to start off...you would be surprised how little they want to know. start basic and if questions still arise get a little deeper in the explinations.

Answer 2

Answer only the question he asked as literally as you can. Drop it. if he's curious or doesn't understand, he'll ask more. But a nine year old should know most of it already. So answer specifically to his questions, but don't fill in the blanks. His questions will reflect what exactly his brain is willing to wrap around. But don't take too long, kids in schools talk about sex starting in kindergarden. it takes a lot of work to untrain that kind of misinformation.

For example, when my son asked how girls get pregnant, I told him that an egg and sperm come together to make a baby. That was it. A couple of days later, he asked where the egg and sperm come from...from women and men. Where in women and men? In special organs called the ovary and the testicle. Where are they? By the uterus and the penis. What's a uterus? An organ in the womans body for holding babies. A long while later he asked how the sperm got there, obvious answer and his response was ewww. My response was to that was "Glad you think so, keep that up for about fifteen years". He was seven at the time.

He's almost twelve now, and those first discussions about sex have gone onto values in marriage, pregnancy, abortion, state's rights, etc. He knows he can express an opinion or ask a question and get an honest answer. That's important to keeping their hearts!

Answer 3

I have a 9 year old and he knows about sex from basic TV and his friends and health class! So when he ask me about sex, I let him tell me what he knows. I feel that it is best to answer vague but honestly. He will know or does know and by lying or not using correct terms with him you will be creating distrust between you and him and also may make him feel like he can not get the correct answer from you in the future. You will have to make your decision based on your own relationship and your own child! Good Luck! Tell him about sex in the way you want him to view sex in the future.

Answer 4

Be honest, . Our son (8 year old) came to us and said he wanted to know exactly how the sperm gets to the egg to make a baby inside a woman & just a few weeks ago he came home from school and said that one of his friends said that having sex is when the man puts his penis into a womans vagina. So we confirmed that yes this is correct. We also stressed that sex is only for adults who are married and not for children, siblings, relations etc etc.

Answer 5

When he asks a question, answer it.
Be honest and for god's sake PLEASE don't use "baby" words!

At 9 he is obviously curious. If he doesn't get the answers from you - or only gets partial answers...he will seek out the real truth elsewhere.

Keep him trusting you by just being honest and straightforward. Kids will someday stop coming to you for help....use this time now to let him knw it is ok to come to you about anything. If he thinks you aren't telling him everything...he'll stop coming to you.

My parents taught me that way and I thank them every day for it. I always knew about sex and never wondered about it so I was never curious enough to experiment in order to find out.

Answer 6

Of course you would not go into great details.

It depends what he wants to know about sex.

You have to be more specific about the questions he is asking.

Answer 7

Answer questions specifically as he asks them. . . do not elaborate unless he asks another question. 9 yos want and need specifics. . . they do not need extraneous information

Answer 8

always room to sugarcoat it before age 10

Answer 9

you should tell him what it is and what you do but dont get to specific