I find myself with a long list of things to do and yet I freeze and can't seem to find the will to do anything. I'm not depressed but do have a lot of things going on in my head. Those stressors are finally more in control now than ever before. So, I have tons of paperwork to do, I've always been responsible with my work, yet I find myself procrastinating by sitting here at my computer or sleeping in. (I work from home.) I have housework to do. I take care of the bare minimums and then don't feel like doing much else. I have very little me time and I'm a very busy mom. What is wrong with me? I feel like I'm sabotaging the very things I need and want. Like my job for example, I want and need to keep my job why can't I seem to get to that darn paperwork, it's already overdue. I feel like I need a swift kick to help me get me started. Help!
2006-12-04 09:14:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is BECAUSE you are so stressed. You need to take a break. The thing that struck me most when I started to read what you'd written is the 'long list' !! If I wrote a long list, and trust me I could, I think I would sit in total despair.
So, AFTER you have taken a small break, even if it is just a day (get out meet someone for coffee, anything), set yourself ONE goal that you think you can achieve. DO NOT think about all the other million goals. If you do you'll be overwhelmed again! Let's face it you can only do one thing at a time. Each time you have tackled one small thing you are on your way!! Your first goal should be something that's not too horrible and fairly easy to achieve.
Now for all the things buzzing around in your head. Write them down...BUT THIS IS NOT A LIST. This is purely so you can say to yourself, I don't have to remember or think about....xyz because it's on a bit of paper.
If the house is messed up get others on board to help you begin again with a clean slate....why not? Explain that you're under pressure at the moment.
Most of all, anything that is not important.....forget it...for now!
Best wishes.
2006-12-04 09:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would say you are depressed. Not terribly, but you are. I don't think you need meds or anything. I think you need to look at your priorities. You are a mom first, the house comes second and you-time and work comes last. If you are dependent on this income, then you have got to adjust things. Mom first, then work stuff, then the house, etc. You also need to take a break and get some you-time. You have to do it. I think that would really help lift you out of this funk.
2006-12-04 09:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have that same problem. What I do is I budget my time-I write down all my things to do, and about how long they will take. Say it adds up to two hours. Then I say to myself, "Ok, from 3:15-4:00 we do homework; and finish it 7:45-9:00."
2006-12-04 09:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Spearfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I was there to give you that swift kick that you need to get back on track!
But since I can't, your going to have to face the music and get off your bottom and get busy. I have had periods where I have been like you, lazy and neglected what had to be done. But I also knew and know that the only person who is going to get it done is myself and that I can't depend on others to jump start me. You know what has to be done, so do it!
2006-12-04 09:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother always says " If it's going to be it's up to me" so Git-R-Done, well i said the git r done part, lol.
2006-12-04 09:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's cause you do ur best work under pressure....
2006-12-04 09:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by marcolam31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋