Did I do something wrong?

Question

My ex broke up with me a month an a half ago, we dated for over two years. I still love him very much.

The other night at a party I met this very sweet guy. We flirted and danced the whole night and at the end we had a quick kiss and exchanged numbers.

However, now I realize that I am not ready yet to date someone else. I am still in love with my ex and now I feel guilty as if I cheated on him even though we are clearly broken up. I feel this may have ruined any chance at reconciliation wtih him if he finds out.

Plus I feel bad for the new guy as I dont know how to let him down gently without him feeling like I led him on.

Help im sooo confused.

Answer 1

I don't think that you did anything wrong. You now know that you still love your ex, which is understandable, seeing as how you two dated for two years. Perhaps you were flirting with this guy to try and move on. i think that you should just allow yourself more time to get over your ex. A month and a half isn't enough time to get over a two year relationship. As for your chances of getting back with your ex, I think that, however hard it is, you should move on from him. There was a reason you two broke up. Good luck with everything and I hope it all works out!

Answer 2

It seems like the first thing to figure out is, do you WANT to reconcile with your ex? There isn't necessarily a right answer, and it might take anywhere from minutes to days to weeks to figure out how you really feel, so don't fret if you aren't sure right away.
If eventually you decide yes, your need to re-open communication with your ex if it isn't still open, and meeting this other guy should be one of the things you discuss, because otherwise you'll still feel like you're hiding something even though you did nothing wrong. If you really love someone the first rule is to always be honest with them. But remember that both parties have veto power - if you want to get back together and he doesn't, that's a no, and you'll need to adapt and carry on.
If eventually you decide you don't want to reconcile, go after the new guy, and never look back. Good luck either way.

Answer 3

It's ok to feel this way, after all, you're only human. If you don't feel like you are ready to date again, then don't. If you're worried about hurting new guy's feelings, just tell him the truth. You have to be true to yourself as well. If he's any kind of adult, he'll understand...just let him know he didn't do anything wrong... I know it sounds cheesy, but the "it's not you, it's me" will probably work. Just be honest. Perhaps it's a good time to focus on yourself (it's OK to be on your own, maybe you'll discover something about yourself that you never knew was there). You never know...maybe new guy feels the same way...talk to him, and at the very least, you will have made yourself a good friend.

Answer 4

You did nothing wrong. You're split up from your ex so you're free to do what you like... unless you were in the process of reconciliation... Even then you could explain to him that it made you realise how much you loved him. The other guy will understand and be grateful that you didn't wait until he'd developed feelings for you before you told him. You never know, he may tell you to keep his number. What's meant to happen will happen :)

Answer 5

1/ do not correspond with dana brown - that no good lousy spammer.

2/ you have DONE nothing wrong.

3/ comon girl - he broke up with you.

what is it with girls who get dumped? if you had dumped him - we would not be having this conversation.

take your time and heal.

it is ok to flirt - if that is what it takes to just take your mind off of your ex for the moment. remember two key things:
"EX" and the "PAST". you will always have memories and who knows you may get back together somewhere down the road.

but remember one thing - he broke up with you so he could go out with someone else. is this what you are in love with?

cherish him, remember him - but try to move on.
i am so proud of you going to parties - enjoying yourself, etc.

and do not ruin anything with the new guy - just yet. chances are - you are not getting back together again with your ex and you may be ruining a great new friendship.

Answer 6

You need to get over your infatuation with your ex. He obviously wants to move on and so should you. If you truly had a good time with the other guy, let him know the whole situation and see how he takes it. If he really likes you, he will try to make the best of it and try to help you. If not, then you really didn't need to be with either of them. Do what you need to do to be happy.

Answer 7

You just need to be honest with him. Let him know that you never meant to lead him on, but that you aren't over your last bf yet, but that you would like to remain friends. If the 2 of you can stay friends he might be able to help you get over your love. I wish you the best.,

Answer 8

well, do you feel like you and your ex might have a chance anymore?

if you do, then juz tell the new guy that you're not ready yet and don't expect for him to wait. if he do, then that's very super sweet.

and as for your Ex, well, do you think he still love you?
if you think he do, then tell him u still got the feelings for him.

if he don't have feeling for you anymore, give the new guy a try.

Answer 9

get over your ex and move on he broke up with you
If you get back together and he asked tell him it is none of his business he lost the right to ask you if you were with some one when he broke up.

Answer 10

if its been a month chances are its over sorry to tell you this he has probley moved on so call this guy you met and start something with him don't be stupid