My parents are really giving me a hard time about dating. since my ex is in jail I've had to move back home and my parents are very "involved" In everything that I do. They make me feel bad for wanting to experince that freedom of dating. Like I'm some kind of ho or something. So how do I get them off my back so I can make my own decitions comfortably?
2006-12-04 08:56:05 · 20 answers · asked by Missy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You moved back home which means you lived on your own. Get a job, save your money and get your own place. That's the only way to keep your parents out of your business.
2006-12-04 08:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can make your own decisions when you are financially independent and thus entitled to do so. Get a job and rent an apartment and buy a car and get insurance and buy your own food and pay utilities and then you can say you are entitled to make decisions and do what you want.
Heck! We all want to have our financial problems taken care of us so we can just "date" and have fun. I am age 62 and it sounds pretty good to me, but that is not how it works.
Adults take care of themselves and others and they can make decisions. Children are cared for and do not get to make decisions. Which are you? Age is not the only criterion. you must show the world you are responsible and reliable and independent and not a burden to others before you can be trusted to decide how to live.
Education helps here too. go to school and learn a trade or profession or at least study SOMETHING. Get a degree.
Then maybe along the way to that degree you will gradually learn enough to run your life and be trusted to do it right. Until then, shutup and do what you are told or live on the street like a ho. Like the other guy said. Sneak out but do not expect to be let back in when the going gets tuff.
By the way, even hos have to do what they are told. get used to it. The men you meet will not be as kind as mom and dad.They will expect a lot for their money and that means they will want to control everything you say or do and who you hang out with.
That is why financial independence is the only way to go.
Use your parents offer to get you started on you own by study and work and saving until you can be launched into own business or career or whtever. no boyfriend will ever do as much for you.
2006-12-04 09:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you...this is a sticky situation. If you are under 18 then there’s not really anything you can say without out them pulling the you’re not an adult card. If you are of age then there’s not really that much you can say. If you are 18 or older you must be in a place in your life where being out on your own isn’t something you can do right now (for whatever reason). You don’t want to start a big fight with them and end up without their help. Try to approach them in a very thought out manner, show them how mature you are and that your intentions are to just go out and have fun and meet new people. All part of growing up
2006-12-04 09:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by anya_8884 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe part of the reason that they are hesitating in letting you go out and date again is because of your ex. Not necessarily that they think you're a "ho". It may be that they're worried about your decision making abilities, especially because your ex is now in jail. I say, take some time to get everything for yourself inorder, and get back on track before trying to date again.
2006-12-04 08:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by ratpackluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents are on the right track since you seem incapable of making decisions yourself. They are probably just trying to help, take notes and maybe your next boyfriend will not end up in jail. You see them as "on your back" did you ever think that they are just looking out for you?
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2016-11-30 03:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you didn't make wise decisions, especially since you dated someone that ended up in jail. They probably don't trust you, therefore need to make sure you don't date losers. They are just trying to protect you, that's all.
2006-12-04 09:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to your parents. You should not date a guy in jail he will only bring you down
2006-12-04 09:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by keith s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell them you are of age and you can only learn from your own mistakes and this is a process of growing up! They are trying to be over protective of you b/c they love you! Set them straight now it is the only way ...believe me!
2006-12-04 08:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
move to another state. once you get 100's of miles between you they let you make decisions. They will always want to keep you safe so get over that it's been their job since you were born.
2006-12-04 08:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋