Why do we hurt our children(punish them) is it because the same was done to us, or because we don't know bette

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Answer 1

Kids need to be punished when they do wrong. This is how kids learn how to act in society. Now beating them into submission is wrong, but a child that is not punished for anything he does wrong grows up to be an adult that cannot cope in the real world.

Answer 2

By "punish" do you mean "spank"? Because that is an entirely different question?

I punish my child when he has done wrong to teach him and help better him.

Spanking on the other hand, he is only 21 months old so we do not spank, but I'm not against it as punishment for certain things.

Answer 3

Because parents who love their children want them to learn the all important fact of life on planet Earth, that bad decisions have painful consequences. We want our kids to be responsible people who put others before themselves instead of just animalistically satisfying their own desires. If you hate your children, show them a good time for 18 years and allow them to grow up into psychotic, selfish, idiots.Otherwise, love them by causing them to experience pain when they are selfish, so they will not be selfish. Show them that when they ignore the laws of the land and common decency, bad things happen to them. This will usually produce a thoughtful, polite, productive member of society who is a joy to employ and have as a friend.

Answer 4

Are you kidding me? Whether you spank or use time outs, EVERY child needs to be punished somehow at times. Otherwise, they don't learn, and they end up growing up doing what they want to do. I can't believe you asked this question. How else is a child supposed to learn right from wrong, if it's abuse to punish the child?

Answer 5

They have to learn limits for what they do and or they will break rules as an adult and not know how to deal with the consequences of their behavor. Priviledge taking away is a HUGE
one in our house. My 11 yr old going on 30 yr old stepdaughter just lost tv for the whole week for getting an attitude and telling me no

Answer 6

This is the world we live in. If you do bad things, bad things happen back to you.

For example if you rob, steal, rape, or murder someone, you get sent to jail. Even if it's a lessor crime such as speeding or littering, there is a consequence to that action.

If you decide to never enforce consequences with your children how will they ever learn to follow the rules of society?

It starts at home, you set the rules of your home, your children must follow. If they break one of your rules there must be a consequence followed up with discipline, such as a explanation of what was expected of them, and why you had to enforce this consequence. Society won't discipline them, YOU MUST, society will just enforce the consequence and be done with it.

Answer 7

It's both. I was beat as a child, but I know better than to beat mine. My parents, for one, thought they were doing right by us since their parents beat them. But looking at my grandparents (uneducated, mental, poor, alcoholics, ) it's not like they were good parents or anything, so why lead by their example? And my parents both turned out with major issues and I did too! For two, the didn't have control of themselves and would take it out on us. They had the need to show the child who's boss at all cost I was afraid, hurt, and angry. I didn't feel any love toward my mother for most of my childhood and have almost blacked out my father. I, however, know better than to put my daughter through this.

Answer 8

kids need to learn right and wrong threw punishment and discipline (along with love and teaching) in order to become decent human beings and good citizens, it may not be nice, no parent enjoys diciplineing their kids, but parenting isnt easy and their is something known as "tuff love". we would all like to just play with the kids all day but we cant, sometimes you have to be tuff so they can grow up into adults and not some spoilt brat.

so if that means i am hurting my kids, they i guess i am hurting them!

Answer 9

It is because they have to learn the limits. Otherwise they add to the already descending spiral of immoral activities promulgated by the youth of today's world.

If you don't draw the line now, they will be spoiled brats and arrogant snobs in the future, expecting their parents and every other person on earth to be at their beck and call.

Answer 10

You mean a little tap on the hand or butt to teach them that certain things are dangerous or hurtful to others? Sometimes that's the only thing that will get through.