This goes for both men and women. If your partner cheats and doesn't tell you (obviously to save the relationship), and nothing bad happens - is it okay to keep it from you (essentially no tell, no harm, no foul - don't do it again!) or would you want to know - which may destroy the relationship?
2006-12-04 08:53:08 · 16 answers · asked by TexasLSUTiger 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex outside the relationship DOES hurt regardless if you tell or not. You are NOT just hurting the other person but yourself. I can name you 5 of my friends with STD, stuck with for life, from cheating! NOT worth it to ME. One had a condom and only had sex the one time with that STD infected person. I am frightened out of my mind that my significant other will cheat on me one day and bring home some critters or something more permanent! You will ultimately suffer too. It's NOT safe these days. Watch the commercials! One in 4 have herpes! 71% is spread when the person is NOT in an outbreak...which means NO signs or symptoms! Any where the puss **** touches will break out...ONE of my friends was really kinky with her husband (he cheated on her and contracted herpes) she ended up with it in her eyes, ears, nose, mouth, throat, etc. She suffered immensely. I am totally against it! I've seen with my own eyes what a few minutes (or couple of hours) pleasure can stick YOU with for the rest of your life! The price is too high! Stay safe, keep it monogomas! Do sex webcam style...it's safer.
2006-12-04 09:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by wintermiss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think an important part to a good healthy long lasting relationship is honesty.
You should be able to be open about everything, ecspecially mistakes. If you guys were ment to be together (I know cliche) then you'll be able to work it out, get to the root of why it happened so it can be avoided. Or realize that it won't work.
Cheating is never right, and yes it can break a relationship, sometimes it can strengthen. Depends on how well you work together, and the better you work with someone, the more you should be together.
2006-12-04 08:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by Usual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely want to know. In fact, I would be more angry and upset and disgusted with the person if he didn't tell me, rather than if he came straight out and told me. However, my reaction would pretty much be the same either way. I'd leave. To me, under no circumstances is cheating okay, and it's even worse if your partner isn't honest with you about it. If you can't trust them to tell you something that big, then what CAN you trust them for? In conclusion, I would definitely want to know. I would still be heartbroken and pissed off dammit, but a lot less than I would be if he didn't say anything and I found out on my own. Honesty goes a long way.
2006-12-04 08:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! Cheating is wrong, and if a person tries to justify their silence by saying what I don't know won't hurt me they are an idiot. What if the person my partner cheated with confronted me? It would hurt even worse coming from a strange woman, instead of him.
2006-12-04 08:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, I'd want to know. Somethings wrong if he even came close. My motto is, once a cheater, always a cheater. There is no such thing as a cheat that does no harm, if nothing else, thr trust has been destroyed and without that, you have NOTHING!!
2006-12-04 08:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wanna know for me been my partner is like my bestfriend i tell her everything and she knows everything and if she cheats is like a back stab u dont do that to friend or love ones that u trust. if she wanted to cheat or she wasnt sure if she wanted it a relationship why even get in it.? thats 4 guys too. if a girls says to me hey i dont want a relationship but i still wanna do what we do what guy is gonna say no??? so cheating its bad cause it destroys people
2006-12-04 08:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by jose m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sick, nasty, wrong, ughhhhh
Yeah so I think its wrong. My opinion is that if you cheat you should leave. If I want to "be" with someone else so bad I'm going to leave your ***. And I would hope you'd do the same.
2006-12-04 08:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by unblvabl77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it matters. relationships are built on trust. when the other does find out, and that usually happens, its horrible and that fact that they nevr came clean in the first place just add's to the heart break. i cant understand why its so hard for people to stay faithful!
2006-12-04 09:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by clare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather want to know. It's better to know now...than later......cuz that's when it hurts wayyyyyyyyyy moreeeeeeeee.................... Remember.....it's easy to forgive but hard to forget..........no lies that don't come out..... it will come out no matter what..............I know cuz my 2yr8mnth bf did the exact same thing.....he didn't tell me about it until we broke up...and see now it hurts.........if he told me then...maybe i wouldn't be hurt as much and have moved on then...... All I can say is that don't be selfish................. think about her feelings first since you're the one who did something wrong............she doesn't deserve to get hurt.........
2006-12-04 08:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by alwaysmile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is just really bad dude. who ever heard of a cheat tha meant no harm. ? : (
2006-12-04 08:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥kina♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋