My boyfriend has just told me that he's going to join the army and that they want him. I know this sounds very selfish but I dont want him to go. The army is very nasty place and thats the last place I want the man I love to be in. Im so scard that im going to lose him. Dont get me wrong he's a really strong and brave person and I know that he would make the best soldier in the world but im scard for him because he isnt. Ive got a really good friend in the army, who keeps going on about soldiers that are dieing and its killing me thinking its going to be my boyfriend next.
I just wanted to know what you would think, if it was you who's love one was going to be a soldier or have you got someone in the army and how do u cope?
2006-12-04 08:43:42 · 17 answers · asked by xx angel 3m xx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A career in the army could prove to be a very good and rewarding career for your BF.
The closer to the action he goes, the risk of fatality or injury is higher. He may decide to be a postman or Joiner or anything.
If you marry you would also be able to move to married quaters with him where you would have a house just like any other normal family with the only differance that you would live on a garrison surrounding by Soldiers/Officers and their familes.
Speak to him about how you feel, and ask him to tell you how he feels.
2006-12-04 08:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married wth 2 children and am serving in the infantry. I have been on operations to different places in the world. Some are more dangerous than others. At the end of the day, everyone in the army are all part of a big family and look after eachother, the wives back home get help with alot and when im away, i have no worries cause im with my mates, we look out for eachother.
I have been brought up in the army and am currently a section commander, BEST JOB IN THE WORLD! Love It
2006-12-04 09:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by daniel m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is what he wants then let him go there are thousand more that are not getting killed... do you drive to work or to school everyday.... you could be killed just as easily.... My best guy friend just joined the Marines... let me tell you your bo cjould go to the marines... they are the presidents men the president could send them anyway he wanted to... The marines go in first clean it up and the army makes sure they keep the peace after the marines leave... so just pray about it if you believe. But if you tell him you don't support him you may lose him which would be worse?
2006-12-04 09:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by daisyduke_205 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to date a guy in the army for 2 years unfortunatly we broke because we drifted apart. It is hard to begin with as u are yused 2 cin him al the time, eventually u get used to it then u have 2 express yourselves other ways, phone calls and letters. When he does come home it means the time spent together is much more special and you appreciate it more! I wouldnt worry, just take things as they come, im sue it will work out. The best thing is to not think about him fighting and just think he at normal work or it will end up killing you inside and eventually your relationship
2006-12-05 00:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by tweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my now husband when he was in my area on transfer. His regiment was in Gernany and he had 8 months left when we met. Her decided after 10 years service that he loved me enough to want to settle down. I told him to go away and think about it seriously before commiting himself and he did just that.
If he'd have decided to go back I would have stood by him and waited. As it was we would have got married and I would have eventually gone with him. You dont believe that he is strong enough to want this because of your insecurity. Its got nothing do do with his decision but more your jealousy.
|If he loves you he will do what he wants and come back to be with you. You cannot stop him and if you do he will resent you for as long as he will know you. I couldn't live with that could you? Think about how hes feeling right now. Its no easy decision and if you believe in what you have there's no reason why he wont come back.
it takes a strong woman to stand by and worry that he will never return but believe me if he says it, he is a man of his word. Boys go in the army and come out as Men Ive been there He's living proof. We've got 2 lovely kids to prove that it does work.
2006-12-04 08:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulate him on choosing such an honourable profession and wish him lots of luck and give him lots of love and hugs and reassurance.
He's probably scared to, he's not stupid soldiers fight in wars it's a common fact, just take every opportunity to tell him you love him.
Not every man has the guts to do a job like that.
(Maybe instead of the dole they should do a bit of national service!)
2006-12-04 08:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with someone in the military sucks on the real. To much lost time away from each other can deeply wound a relationship that is weak or strong. If you are not fully committed I wouldn't put my self through the effort of a potential heart ache.
2006-12-04 08:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by mcd0499 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand what you are saying but i think the best course of action is to let him have his head, ok it may be difficult but whatever you would like it is not your choice, i think if you can let him go you will be the better person, at the end of the day you know he loves you. Be proud of him for who he is xx
2006-12-04 08:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me I would put on a brave act and support what they want to do. I know that it won't last between us but I would still support their decision
2006-12-04 08:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o don't have again one in the army but i would if i were u i stick by him know matter what! if u truly love him u would stick by him. good luck
2006-12-04 09:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋