I hate to say this, but my son who just turned 10 months old yesterday, is downright mean to the point of evil! He can't touch anyone unless it's hitting, he screams and throws himself in the floor, he knows what "no" means but refuses to listen, and he beats on his cousin of the same age and takes his toys. He has even made other kids bleed.I DO NOT encourage this behavior and I remove him from situations and have even tried smacking his hands, but it doesnt help.I have no idea how to get through to him. I am so tired of having to tell all our relatives to keep his hands away from scratching/hitting distance.He also throws things at people, he blacked my 17 year old cousins eye with the remote twice!My husband and I are at are wits end and are begging for any help on how to discipline a 10 month old.Just this weekend he walked up to a baby at a pageant and grabbed him by the hair and slammed him to the floor.I want to have a baby I can trust to be around people without hurting them.
2006-12-04 08:40:27 · 19 answers · asked by Hayley C 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This is what has worked for us:
Every time our kids do something that is unacceptable to us (biting, hitting, throwing things at others), we don't get mad (at least outwardly), we just pick them up, take them to their time out space (3 yr old = room; todderl=crib) and give them a time-out.
After a few minutes, I come back and say, "you can join us now if you will be on your good behaviour. Hitting, biting, etc is not acceptable". We'll do this sometimes 10 times during a play date... but they really catch on fast! They know just by a look mom or dad gives what unacceptable behaviour is.
Kids are like monkeys (to some degree!) you do have to "train" them to behave around others. They don't inherently know that hitting and biting hurt others and are socially unacceptable.
Good luck - I know it's frustrating!
2006-12-04 12:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Falina T. Rayon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he has a thing about hitting people smacking his hands or spanking will not work for him. This will just whow him that hitting is ok. When he tries to hit grab his hands and raise your voice to him and sternly say "NO HITTING". and hug him tightly until he calms down. If that doesn't work strap him in his high chair for a couple of minutes. If nothing works for him take him to his doctor. Has he been sick lately? Extremely thirsty? Peeing a lot more? Sometimes when a infant/child is diabetic it can cause severe behavior problems. Have his doctor check his blood.
2006-12-04 08:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to sound cruel but at first with your first few sentences I started laughing I had a picture in my mind of a 10 month old doing this that nuts.
I have heard of toddlers doing things like this but a ten month old wow. You have a very aggressive baby on your hands I diden't even no that babies this age could even be cruel or know how to. Maybe he is just very fussy and it comes across intentional . My son has accidently hurt me a couple of times and he is 12 months never have I seen or heard of anything like it very sorry I wish I couls help and sorry for laughing at first I thought it was somebody putting a joke spoof question on here But I believe you are very serious goodluck
2006-12-04 09:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy.W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some serious rage issues. Is he in child care or at home during the day? I only ask because if he's in child care, there could be some problem with the caregiver. If not, has there been some trauma that is causing him to lash out? It sounds like really violent behavior for a 10 month old and you sound intelligent. I think something is wrong. Maybe your doctor can refer you to a counselor for him
2006-12-04 08:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kat H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to learn a new way to communicate. Work on words with him and start teaching him baby sign language. Most kids can pick that up quicker. Learning to communicate in words or signs will lessen his frustration and he may be less physical then. He is NOT "evil" or "mean" but testing limit, trying to communicate and trying to figure out his world. Watch him when he is with other kids and step in BEFORE he does something inappropriate to redirect him.
2006-12-04 08:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 11:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hit, bite or spank him. Considering he is so agressive right now, that will just add to the problem.
Take him to your pediatritian, family doctor or psychologist and make sure nothing is physically wrong with him. Then get some advice from them on calming techniques to use on your son.
Do not take the advice you see on these boards. Get professional help for your and your son's sake.
good luck!
2006-12-04 10:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Beth W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that many times toddlers like to take other toys from other children because they get a reaction. It is them learning cause and effect. When he does something like this get to eye level with him and explain what he is done. The aggresion may be just be a stage but if you are really concerned talk to you Doc about it.
2006-12-04 08:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by remsing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to be diligent and stop his behavior whenever he does it. As he gets older, he should have better awareness of how his actions impact others. For now, he's too young to fully understand the consequences of his actions, so you'll need to stop him and sturnly say "NO". At his age, it's no unusual for babies to understand no without obeying it.
The other thing that's EXTREMELY important is to reward his GOOD behavior (make a big deal when he does something nice). Then, he'll be proned to repeat it. If he only gets attention when he's bad, he'll continue that behavior.
Curious- How does a 10 month old baby walk up to another baby and slam them to the floor? At 10 months, he's probably still trying to master walking!
2006-12-04 08:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
wow a counselor maybe.
Hitting him back wont be the answer. He is pretty little...if you yell at him does it affect him? I know sometimes when you scare a baby with angry yelling they will stop what they are doing and cry. That could be another way to let him know its wrong.
When my lil sister bit ppl my mom got fed up finally and bit her back....she never bit any one again cuz she knew it hurt.
Good luck
2006-12-04 08:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋