My 10 week old son screams to be picked up, tried the controlled crying but he gets more disressed!?

Question

My son will scream and scream to be picked up, have been told to leave him for a little longer each time before picking him up but he gets so upset that its really quite worrying. anyone have any advice? thanks

Answer 1

Of course he gets more upset when no one comes to him! Imagine if you were yelling for help and no one came.
If a baby that small is crying, he needs something. Maybe he's just lonely and needs to feel someone near. That's not something to ignore, it's a basic human need. There could be many reasons why he cries. The only people who can tell you for sure are the people that know him the best because every baby is different. The important thing is Don't ignore him. He cries because he needs you. It's not always easy to figure out what babies need, but it's important to keep trying and let him know that you are there for him.

Answer 2

Babies need constant love and attention and to know that they are not deserted. until he is older you MUST rush to him when he cries so that way he will learn that he can trust you and you will be there for him when he needs it. Sometimes they just need to be held in a different position or hummed to close to their ear. Try many different things and if you get to the point or anger with him lay him in his bed where he is safe with some sort of soothing music and walk away for 5 minutes or so. He will live if you need a break. They usually need something and it is our job to figure out what they need. He could want you to vacuum cause he likes the sound of it or to make noise putting away dishes. I brought my daughters bassinnette into the kitchen or wherever I was so she wasn't alone and I would talk to her and tell her what i was doing. It seemed to comfort her more. Also they can sense your irritation or anger and it will not help them to calm down. so like I said if you need a break, walk away. don't let your frustration make it worse or cause you to hurt your child. It won't last forever and you will miss this time in his life when it has passed. Good luck and cherish every day because the days go by too fast...just ask my mom. :-)

Answer 3

Love the little thing, he is a baby. He may be colicy, and his screaming will drive you crazy. but give him comfort so he learns trust.

Talk to your doc. He may have digestive problems, we went through soy milk and corn milk, then I got some stomach tranquilizer when my sone was around that age. worked wonders. Began with the letter L. Sorry I can't remember the name.

Most of all remember - just love the baby - even if he still screams he feels someone cares. I held my crier all the time and he is now a well adjusted 7 year old.

Answer 4

Has this just started? He may be gowing through a growth spurt which means he is hungry all the time.

There is also nothing wrong with not holding your son 24/7. You have to brush your teeth, go to the bathroom and eat, too.

He is too young to cry it out. If he is crying, pick him up and try to figure out what is wrong--does he want to nurse/take a bottle, need a change, cold or just wants to be held. If he seems to be crying incessantly, talk to your ped, maybe something is wrong.

Don't worry, you are a tired, new mom and just want a chance to take a breath. It is normal.

Answer 5

Please pick your child up! He just came out a womb 10 weeks ago, and he was there comfortable for 9 months! What are you showing him? That he is not important enough for you, that you are too busy for him, that he is all alone, that he should give up trying to communicate with you because you will never listen anyway?

Please stop what you are doing, and love you child. Let him feel your body next to his, where he has been safe and warm for so long. His cry is agonizing to you, because your mind and heart are telling you what no one else will. Do not upset this infant anymore. If you didn't have time for him, why did you bring him into the world?

I am sorry to be so harsh, but you are being even worse with an innocent infant who is your flesh and blood. Don't try to force him to be "independent". When he is a teenager you will say,"he doesn't listen to me, he thinks he is GROWN. He grew up too soon!" It starts hear, accept the stage of life your child is in, and welcome it! Babies cry because they can't talk, not to hurt you, manipulate you, or bug you! What is your baby saying?? "I am lonely, I am hot, I need to be close to you mom/dad, I am hungry, I am wet, I feel crappy today, My stomach/head/legs hurt, I am bored." Please learn who your child is, and run far away from anyone who tells you to ignore your own child in order to teach them something! Good luck new mommie, listen to your heart!

Answer 6

Letting a child cry it out at that young of an age is just cruel. Crying is his only means of communication. If he has been fed, burped, changed, cuddled, and is still crying he may just have a tummyache. They make gas drops for this kind of thing. Is he pooping well? Is he breastfed or formula fed? If he is crying unconsolibly for more than 3 hours at a time for at least 3 nights a week, you may be dealing with colic.

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Answer 7

I know it is terrible to hear your baby cry and do nothing, but really it isnt hurting them unless they are gasping for air and turning colors. You might also want to check and see if he is drawing his knees and legs up when he cries, that might be gas. You can find gas drops at most stores like wal-mart and they can really help. You may want to try things like mobiles and crib toys so he can learn to entertain himself. If all fails I would talk to my pediatrician.


I just wanted to add, I am not saying to ignore him. If nothing is wrong (gassy, hungry, etc.) by the time he is 3 months old you should really try to get him to be a little independent. Try to get him to entertain himself with toys or things to look at, belly time. If you rush to his every cry when there isn't anything wrong you may end up having a child who is attached at the hip and won't let you leave his sight. You can prop up books beside him, or just go talk to him for a minute or two when he is fussy until he is better. If not, you won't be able to get stuff done around the house or even leave him with a sitter. I just wanted to clarify that by all means, if he is really upset you need to soothe him. I really think you should talk to your doctor first to make sure nothing is seriously wrong.

Answer 8

10 Weeks! He is trying to tell you something, listen to the poor baby. There is nothing wrong with holding your child, where did you get such an idea?

Answer 9

I doubt he is always screaming to be picked up every time. If you go to your child everytime they cry, you can recognize the different cries. You will know if they need to be burbed, fed, changed, loved or entertained. Once you get it down, you can make them stop crying faster.