What do I do. I asked a question last week, now need help with this 1. Have a sole mate who i really like and respect, we have great sex, go on days out, i have cooked for her, she contacts me mostly but i can't answer her when she calls, not sure why I don't, but my ex keeps ringing me and I feel close to her still, how do I tell my sole mate i want to go back with my ex, but then again i'm not sure I want to!! arrgh i'm confused. Not sure how to play this one, i know I can't have both!
2006-12-04 08:37:38 · 28 answers · asked by Julz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because you have great sex does not mean they are a soul mate. Better be sure you know the difference between a true connection and great sex.
Also, sometimes when things are intense with someone it gets a little scary. Men often do that. They want to bail because the intensity is too much for them.
Go for the girl who you can really be yourself with, someone you can connect with, share everything with. Think about it honestly. You'll find the answer. Make a decision soon before things get out of hand.
I'm not trying to steer your decision, but you should also reflect on why your ex is your 'ex'. You two broke up for a reason.
2006-12-04 08:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are right, you CAN'T have both. You need to quit jerking yourself around and those two young women.
You don't HAVE a soul mate If you are asking US how to tell her you want to go back with your ex. If she was your soul mate, you wouldn't WANT to go back to your ex.
No, she isn't a soul mate, she's a great lay and you don't want to give THAT up. You aren't confused, you just want two girlfriends and if either of these two girls have any self respect at all, they won't sit still for that.
If they do sit still for it, then great for you - for a bit. Cause in a few weeks or a few months, you'll soon realize they are both a couple of doormats and that you have no respect for either one and you'll send in another question here 'AGONIZING' over some other choice, just so you won't think of yourself as a low life.
I hate to say this, you need to grow up and pick one - ONE. We often hear about how painful double dealing is for the one who is cheated upon; but we need to hear more about just how it destroys the character of the one who does the cheating. And it DOES destroy the character.
Be a man. Do the right thing
2006-12-04 08:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by glenbarrington 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have met your soul mate! There is no contest really is there I think you are just frightened that it might go wrong again and this time because you love her so much that you will be hurt a thousand times more than you were with your EX!
Don't forget that the other girl is your EX there must have been a reason why you split up do you really want to go through that again
Trust your instincts if this girl really is your soul mate why would you want anyone else!
2006-12-04 20:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well then don't see or talk to any. Its clear that you 've not got over your ex and the other girl doesn't deserve to be messed about so just be on your own and take time out.
That way neither of them will get hurt and you get to choose what to do next. Besides, she's your ex for a reason. Get a grip if it didn't work out the first time its a clear inditcation it never will.
2006-12-04 08:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right I've just answered a question saying that all girls are crap at relationships.............
Think this proves otherwise.
Exes are exes for a reason, cliche I know. I read a great book called it's called a breakup because it's broken, I think that says everything you need to know!
You are going to feel close to your ex because there is always going to be feelings there, but that doesn't mean you have to be together romantically.
And your 'soulmate'? You call her that you had better be prepared to move heaven and earth to be with her.
If she really is your soulmate, you will be together, that's what it means.
2006-12-04 08:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to still feel something for someone you went out with.You are human aren't you?I say give it a go with the new girl.You may feel you know your ex inside out and that maybe what is still attracting you to her but one of the best things about going out with someone new is getting to know them.Besides if she really is your sole mate,why would you what to dump her.
2006-12-04 08:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Father Jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't sleeping with one, I'd say, "Why can't you have both until you're sure what's going on."
As it is, I don't think you're being fair to anyone. Least of all yourself. Figure out what you want before you do anything more with the one you're with. It's not fair to you or her. Be honest with her, tell her how you feel about your ex and that you're trying to sort through that and ask her to help you to be strong and resist doing anything that will hurt her in the future.
2006-12-04 09:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Step back from both for a few daysand see which one you truly honestly miss. All you have to do is follow your heart it will lead you in the right direction. If you do choose your ex then tell your "soulmate" the truth. If they care about you that much they will want to see you happy. It might hurt them a little but in the long run it will be best for both of you.
2006-12-04 08:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by confusedbetween2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have no idea what a 'sole' mate is nor do you know how to spell it. You sound like a total loser!
Both females would be better off without you.
2006-12-04 08:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What that is ridiculous. if you're purely doing it with adult men you're courting that actual does no longer make you in besides a whore. adult men and ladies human beings both can love sex. it is human nature if something. that is a paranormal journey. each body is different. it isn't undesirable in any respect keep doing what your doing :) at the same time as think about intense sex force.
2016-11-23 16:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋