what to do about my mom?

Question

Okay ever since I got my period, my mom has treated me unfairly last year she caused me to go into depression because she hit me and verbally abuse me as well... she favors my brother over me by letting him do more then me and everything I WANT she will get for him, I could have won 10 000 dollars and got into the semi finals for a poetry contest, and she wouldnt take me, She lectures me to get a job, meanwhile she refuses to drive me and whenever I get an interview she wont take me, she will call me a selfish ******* lil ***** and tell me I am a mistake and tells me I wont succeed, she is a power freak she likes to be in control and stuff.. and shes very hipocritical. For example one time I stayed home from school sick and shes like ya well if ur not responsible to get up in the morning your not responsible enough to drive. well.. shes gotten up late.. because she didnt check her alarm. and blamed everyone else for her getting up late.

and on top of that she will say no and have no reason for it, ground me for stupid reasons, she takes credit for everything done in the house and everything my dad or brother wont stand up to her I dont know what to do but Im sick of her crap I want to move out so bad

im 16 at the moment.. he doesnt defend me.. only has just recently.. and mY mom through this fit and tried everything to get her way.. my dad and bro dont defend me cuz there scared of my mom.. and i have gone to the authorities but they believed my mom over me

i have no relatives near me at all, there all atleast 2 hours away or more, I only really wanna move out if I have to cause the only person I have a problem with is my mom, mY DAD n bro Im close with, just my mom tries to make me miserable.. and like .. i defend myself and everything and then she goes and says Im a bad person for defending myself

Answer 1

WELL, IF UR 15 U CAN DO THAT. IT SOUNDS LIKE UR MOM HAS ALOT OF ISSUES. SHE IS WAT I CALL A *****. TELL SOMEONE ABOUT THE ABUSE. IF UR DAD CANNOT STANDD UP 2 HER, THAN HE IS NOT A MAN HONEY. U DESERVE 2 BE TREATED FAIRLY. F**CK HER. SHE CAN'T HOLD U DOWN. SKY IS THE LIMITS LITTLE MAMMA. IF U NEED 2 TALK. HIT ME UP ON MSN. I'LL EMAIL U MY ADDRESS

Answer 2

I want to give you a sincere word of encouragement . Before you know it you will be old enough to leave it all behind and make a better life for yourself . Until then you absolutely have to try and do the very best for yourself, no matter what, to get an education . Learn a trade or get your dad to help you get into a college . Soar like an eagle and show her up by amounting to something very special . I have been there and done that and today look back with pride. It takes discipline and willpower, most people don't have that at any age ,when you look at your misery you can do this. It gives you inner strength to achieve exactly that . When she does things to you, be still and turn away, don't fret and have harsh words as it is useless and only makes you more frustrated . I pray you listen and think about it when you have a quiet moment .
The best to you and God bless.

Answer 3

Wow.....I am so sorry to hear all this. Sounds like your Mom needs some HELP.....before she hurts someone or more likely you for that matter.

I am not sure how old you are but, I think if you are old to move out that should be your first step!

Then I think that if she hits you again...you should call 911 & maybe that will put some fear in her. If you just keep letting her get away with it then she will keep on doing it. Sounds like everyone in your family is alittle scared of her.

I am a Mother of 3 beautiful girls & I can tell you this I would never lay one hand on them. I love them way to much, just as you should be loved in the same way. No-one has the right to put there hands on anyone!!!

I can't believe that she would not take you semi finals for a poetry contest. I think that she should be way more proud of you than she is! She should be happy that you are not out there on the streets doing drugs! Sounds like you are a nice girls with alot of talent. Take that talent & become whomever you want to. If your Mom wants to be part of it she will & if not then go on by yourself or with friends....Keep up the good work...don't let her bring you down....

If you ever want to talk please e-mail me [e-mail]

Good luck....I hope what I said will give you some peace!

Answer 4

Instead of asking her to take you to interviews and things of that nature, maybe you should start catching the bus. If your mom is being that mean towards you and wants you to be more responsible then prove to her that you are. The best way to fight her is using all that negativity that she feeds you and turn it into positive. Show her that you can and will do things without her help. Show her that you will amount to something and that you're not a mistake. Honestly your mother could be jealous of you. Don't let her depress you. Once she sees that you are believing the negativity that she feeds into you, then she is happy. Don't give her or anyone else that satisfaction, but most importantly prove to yourself that your important and that you will succeed in life. Good luck in all things that you do. You're gonna make it, but don't stop loving your mother no matter what!!

Answer 5

Poor girl. How old are you? Do you have other family around? Aunts Uncles or grandparents? Maybe if somehow you get this abuse on recording without her knowing then you can call authorities and they can help you get out of the situation and get into a better environment.
It's not right she hits you let alone treats you so unfairly.

Answer 6

well, if your so serious about the abuse and moving out...then make an appointment with your school counselor. She/he can get you in touch with the child protective services. My young friend had a mom who was drunk all the time. She called the police and told them she didn't want to live there anymore. The CPS came to make an opinion. The mom got therapy but still snuck her booze. The girl called the police again and again till the state finally let her decide where to live. She is living with her older sister. First with her grandma. I think she was better off with her boozing mother. Her sister is on drugs...didn't start till a year ago. Sad, very sad. If your 16 you might be allowed by your state to declare yourself an adult. Ask your school counselor. Foster care might be worse...do you have a realive who can do a better job raising you? Are you ready to be on your own? Get a job, finish school, have a small one room apt? Are you that responsible? or can you just stick it out for 2 more years? After high school; Go to college or the military and get out of your home. Please get therapy...it will help! I speak from experience. And just so you know, I jumped out of a two story window to get away from my mom when I was 17. I was forced to go back. At 18 I chose to stay cause she was kissing my butt after the therapist told her it was HER fault and she needed to change...but now after 22 years, I wish I had chosen to live with my grand parents. I would of been better off in the long run to have left that dysfunctional home. So think really hard...are you ready to do the work it will take to get out? Other wise, stay and take it. Bide your time till your out of school. Join a bunch of clubs and sports at school. They will get you out of your house safely. And you'll meet new ppl and have some fun doing it. Good luck!