it came to a point in our realtionship, where I want a comittment,a nd he said he's not ready. He wanted to stay friends, and he would fight til the death to stay freinds. Then I kept asking him, and he broke it off, saying it would be best, becuase he doesn't want to hurt me. I told him I loved him, and stop calling.It's been 2 months, and I wonder what is going through his mind. We normally go through this off an on.
2006-12-04 08:28:18 · 36 answers · asked by la chica sexy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This man used to be my best friend for 2 years, and we got romantically involved. Now it's at the point where we have to comit or quit.
2006-12-04 08:49:36 · update #1
This man used to be my best friend for 2 years, and we got romantically involved. Now it's at the point where we have to comit or quit.
2006-12-04 08:49:43 · update #2
If you really want a commitment, stick to your guns. If you want a committed friendship then go with that. But, make up your mind. Looks like he has. I couldn't get the man of my dreams to decide to get serious beyond only "saying" he was serious. It took several break-ups, but I was weak. I kept going back. Then I decided to agree with him and that we would be "friends" AND I was going to date. I was miserable, but I did it. He didn't like hearing about my dates and the different guys I was meeting. Last Christmas, I went to two different Christmas parties with two different guys and neither was him. As my Christmas present from him, he gave me a beautiful necklace --- with Friends Forever engraved on it. I cried in front of him---I just couldn't help it. It was not what I wanted and I didn't want to remain friends. I couldn't hide my sadness that he couldn't see how I felt about him. He asked several times about just seeing each other (without a commitment though) and I'd say no. Then when I'd want to say yes, I couldn't talk to him because I knew I'd get weak again. Much to my surprise, he proposed to me February 9! I really thought we would be friends forever. I believe that he realized that I had always wanted him all along and that I was not going to wait around forever---I have to add that we dated for 6 years and 11 months before he asked me to marry him. There were several break-ups and one time, we didn't speak for about four months. He is my best friend and I love him dearly. Even if he wouldn't have proposed, I would have always known that he was the "one" that he let get away, but I didn't lose him.
We each had to make a decision. He had to decide to be in a committed relationship with a ring and I had to decide that just a friendship with him was not enough. There still may be a chance to repair your friendship. But again, you need to decide what you are willing to live with---stick to your guns and go for it!
2006-12-04 08:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by whadda-dingo-gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEHEHE He is doing what he is suspost to do. CUT all contact with you and make you wonder what he is thinking.
Listen, I have read 100's of dating and realtionship books. And EVERYONE of them say to cut all contact with the female and it will jsut drive her crazy wondering what is on his mind.
Also within that NO contact time there is no PUSH or PULL ( a relationship term meaning everything he does he pushes and you pull away, BUT with no contact you can PULL away anymore and you start to forget about all the bad things and remember all the good time and you sit crying wondering what went wrong and how to get it all back. And then you get back together and STILL do the same things you did before and end up breaking up again.
I have sat here here for hours helping GUYS get over or get back their EX back but i really dont know how to get a GUY back for a woman. All i can tell you is that he is pulling a classic trick that WORKS EVERY TIME on woman.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-04 08:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by remailer000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is your regular routine...END it. You deserve a relationship that isn't so emotional. And so does he. You BOTH need to stay away from one another and find different mates. There's so many singles out there. Dont fret...you fell in love once...you will again as well. I speak from experience! I thought I'd NEVER find a true love...but it's going on 4 years next month! We met online! Try it! Good luck! Get off the roller coaster, I did and I love it!
2006-12-04 08:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by wintermiss 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the fact is honey you're completely extra useful off devoid of him. He would not p.c. to be with you yet he would not p.c. all and sundry else to have you ever the two. it particularly is a user-friendly case of if i shop saying those issues she will stick around if it would not paintings out with the recent gf. finally end up somebody who respects you and shop a good distance between you and this guy. have faith me i understand I went out with a guy for 4 years and he continually did it to me. I realised what a dick he grow to be as quickly as I met my new guy who's now my husband. stable success.
2016-10-14 00:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months without a phone call is a long time, this would usually mean that it is over. If he does come back, he is probably just trying to use you to pass the time until he finds another girlfriend. You will end up being his transition girl if you stay with him. He will come back every once in a while, just because he knows you will let him. I would end it now before he does end up hurting you again.
I hope this helps
2006-12-04 08:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by Berg 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its unhealthy for you to fall in this endless cycle. Reasons for this is nothing ever got resolved. Think about what's best for YOU and not what he offers. Sometimes we always let the people slide with views we don't agree with. But if there is no future, then it really is time for you to move on. Doing the right thing is not necessarily the easiest thing to do.
2006-12-04 08:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This guy does not plan to commit the relationship for life - atleast at this moment. Your request could give him cold feet. I guess its best they you both split or you're likely to get hurt more than him. Drop him, keep busy and before you know it he'll be off your mind and who knows, your Mr. Right may appear. Keep smiling.
2006-12-04 08:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've found its easier not to talk to them. Whenever mine gets back in touch it just brings up old feelings. If something is meant to be, it will happen. If he's not around you might be surprised at what could happen. He may realize he can't live without you or you may find someone better who will give you the committment you want.
2006-12-04 08:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What's to understand. There are two types of men in the world. Normal guys who find a good woman, marry her and raise their children....and losers who screw a bunch of women, have no stability in their lives and relationships and, once they do have children (usually out of wedlock), abandon them.
Your ex is showing you quite clearly that he is the latter. Pursuing him is probably the biggest mistake you could make in your life. It will result in you being a single mom.
2006-12-04 08:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When a guy is so obviously telling you to back off he means it more often than not. If you keep on coming and forcing what he sees as a dead issue, he is going to start avoiding you as a matter of course.
2006-12-04 08:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by DJL2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋