I'ma senior in high school, do you think that it is arrogant to just go up to a group of people out of the blue and ask if you can sit with them at lunch or something like that. I know them all and they all like me and I like all them and I've known them for years even though we're not really close friends but I don't know if that's like inviting myself and it's arrogant and I should just forget it. I mean I'll be out in a few months but I'd really like to spend more time with them. But I worry about what soemone else said, you;ve know them for all these years and never tried to be good friends with them and now you want to sit with them and hang out with them? What do you think about that?
2006-12-04 08:25:43 · 17 answers · asked by leena 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you know them and are reasonably friendly with them, I don't see why you couldn't ask to join them. It's not arrogant to want to spend more time with people or get to know them better, as long as you're polite about it.
2006-12-04 08:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it this way - You can never have enough friends - Yes it is perfectly find to go over to these people and sit with them- you are all in the same school and you know them - so you probably have a lot in common - Just be yourself and have a great time -
Have a great lunch !!!!
2006-12-04 16:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it says great things about you that you would want to get to know them better!! Too many high school students stay glued to their "groups" and miss out on a lot of great friendships because of that. Just because you haven't made the effort for years doesn't make a reason not to make the effort now. I say go for it especially if your on good terms already! If for any reason they reject you or think you're being rude...well then forget them and move on. At least you tried!
2006-12-04 17:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i wish i were more like you. i think that its a great thing to do. but just be like hey do you guys mind if i sit with you guys for lunch today its been a while since we've last talked or something like that. even as a sophomore people in my school never do that and because of that everyone grows apart and its kind of sad.
2006-12-04 16:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by nascarxcore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not arrogant. It's a great idea. You have to develop your friendship in someway and spending more time with them is a great way to do it!
It all depends how you approach them -- not as if you are entitled to sit with them but with humility and interest in them...
2006-12-04 20:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. I used to do that in high school and it was accepted. There were no ulterior motives. I just liked talking to different people. Who cares what anyone else thinks anyway?
2006-12-04 16:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like they are total strangers, and who knows, maybe one of them will end up being a new best friend or b/f...if there are guys in the group.
2006-12-04 18:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly fine, and a great way to get used to 'the real world' a nice way to say it is to approach an empty chair and say, "Is this seat taken?"
2006-12-04 17:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it - it's friendly and they will be flattered on some level.
This "someone" - does this person want you to not have more possible friends? What motive could there be for this remark? Jealousy?
2006-12-04 16:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by juditurc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems fine to me. I do things like that all the time. "Is this seat taken?" is a common way to do this.
2006-12-04 17:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋