d) mean that you are owed respect back? Or is there more to earning respect and maintaining the respect of children?
2006-12-04 08:16:38 · 14 answers · asked by chicalinda 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i feel that since a parent gives their child respect when their born that a child should have respect for their parents.
at least that is how my family is and that is how i am raising my daugther
2006-12-04 08:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by emrald_dragon_creations 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that children do owe their parents some basic respect for birthing them, but beyond that, it depends what we mean by parents.
A biological parent that does not participate in their child's life is not owed much respect by the child.
If we are talking about parents who care for their child, it still depends. It would be hard to respect a parents that does not respect their own child. My parents respected me and my decisions and my beliefs. When I was younger, they still respected what I had to say and listened to me, taking into account my opinion. Often in my younger days, I was mistaken, and they would let me know that. Even when my parents would not let me do what I wanted, I never lost respect for them, or even became very angry at them because I knew they actually took the time to listen to me. Because they respect me, I in turn respect them, and to this day, we have a great relationship.
I do have friends, however, who are treated very poorly by their parents. For example, a friend of mine's mother had her at a very young age. The mother has spent her whole life looking for a husband and has basically tossed the girl aside. There relationship is very poor and it is not because the girl does not want a relationship with her mother, but because her mother doesn't care to form one with her. She is too busy looking for a "man." As a result of this poor relationship, the mother never has time to discuss anything with her daughter, and merely makes up her mind based on her own predispositions, ie, she doesn't respect the daughters opinions. The daughter still has a basic respect for her mother, but it is nothing special. The only positive thing to come of this is that the daughter knows she will have more respect for her children, and treat them more fairly.
2006-12-04 16:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that all children SHOULD respect their parents to some degree. Afterall, parents are who gave us life. And parents are who cared for us. However, there is more to parenting then just being a provider of necessities and this is HOW parents EARN the respect of their children. Parents are to be loving, understanding individuals whom appreciate their kids. A parent who doesn't provide a loving environment for their kids and raises them in a violent abusive home, is NOT entitled to the respect of their children. If we cause our children PAIN, they should never respect us, and should NEVER be expected to. We may have brought them here, but that doesn't give us the right to abuse the PRIVILEDGE of being a parent!
2006-12-04 16:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cblack22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Old fashioned thinking demands that parents get automatic respect from their children. But my question is: How much respect does an abusive parent earn?
2006-12-04 16:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give respect, you shall receive respect. You cannot expect it if you have not earned it, even from your own children. My father has never made an effort to earn my respect, simply demanded it.
2006-12-04 16:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that as a young child, respect has to be taught.
As you become older, respect has to be earned.
Everyone should show each other respect, but we all know that doesn't happen.
I teach and show my children respect, so I feel that they need to show respect back to me as well.
But kids learn as they see. Angry parents make angry kids--if a kid is around hate, anger & disrespect, that is how they are going to grow up. Kids are pretty much "unprogrammed" and it is up to parents to instill the rights & wrongs. They may change as they get older and start to realize right and wrong for themselves, but when they are younger it is up to the parents.
2006-12-04 16:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect my children, therefore I demand respect from them! It is not something that is owed, it's called common courtesy! Treat others as you would like to be treated!
2006-12-04 16:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents always say so. that i should respect them and i do but still we argue and stuff sometimes. I try not to much i do know they have to work hard to take care of us and we got a big family so its hard on them too but being youngest kid not easy.
2006-12-04 16:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is mroe to it.. just becaue a parent gives birht to a child doesn't mean that the child has to respect them.. it depends on how they treat their child
2006-12-04 16:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by ohhh lalalala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are your beginnings and part of yourself, to disprespect them is to disrespect yourself. it is a parent's duty to teach their child respect, but only the child can choose to be respectful; it cannot be commanded, only offered and refused or accepted; it is in the way it is offered that parents have their obligation
2006-12-04 16:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by soobee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋