My wife wants to work, as a good Christian man I believe in the bible and it says she should stay home.?

Question

She should be home cooking and cleaning and making me happy don't you think?

All the Mormons I know say it is Gods will that a woman know her place...in the home.

Answer 1

It looks like god didnt account for inflation and a obese consumer economy. All based on credit!!!! Let her work you probaly need the money to pay off your credit cards. Peace

Answer 2

I would worry less about what the Bible says and LISTEN to your wife. Either you do not make enough to make the house hold financially stable, or she is bored and wants a change. So if you are loaded and can survive in this economy with out two pay checks. Then hear that she needs more than you and your Bible are producing. Somewhere in the Bible it talks about talking The story of Babel comes to mind. Listening is as important; also being a good Husband means making the best choices for the family not just for Dad. Each person needs to be considered to make a home happy.

Answer 3

Chuck,

Because of financial reasons I knew I had to work when I got married, however my husband is the head of the house and even though is is not good with numbers I go over our budget with him and I go over finances.

I fully respect what the Bible says about woman staying home but where I live that is impossible for most people because life is expensive. We don't have children but I use my gifts and talents and abilities in the work place and I am always praying for my co-workers as well.

In this day and age many women don't work for the salaries alone but also the benefits and that is why I work as well because my husbands plan does not cover the things I need at this present time.

Have you discussed this matter with your wife? Do you have children? Are you both in a financial situation that you can live on one income? She should cook and clean and make you happy but shouldn't you be helpingn your wife out and make her happy as well? Communicate with her lovingly your concerns. Work together as a team. a godly team.

Answer 4

In todays society women are as equal to men. There are some men who now stay home with their children and raise the household chores as women once did. Sometimes the woman is the breadwinner of the house and therefore it is a decision between man and woman to decide as what is best for each circumstance. I don't think it has anything to do with being christian or not rather than being based on what works best for your family as agreeable between the both of you. No matter what answers you get here, no one will be able to decide that for you. I will say this from personal experience. I was married (now happily divorced of almost 6 yrs) and I was a stay at home mom with two children. We lived a lifestyle that was very comfy and then when I went to be on my own with two children it was very hard for me. What I am saying is maybe if she wants to work allow the decision to be hers mainly. Perhaps she is seeking independence and you can't offer that too her, it comes from her own doings. I hope this helps a little.

Answer 5

You said that all the mormons you know tell you that... ask them to show you that in the Bible. It's not there. People have different personalities and thrive in different situations. Some women are perfecty happy to stay at home, some would rather work.

Also, you stated "She should be home cooking and cleaning and making me happy don't you think?" That's a little selfish, don't you think? If you love your wife, you are going to want HER to be happy, and if she loves you, she should want to make you happy, but how is her working going to compromise your happiness?

Answer 6

Your wrong, the bible never says a woman should stay home.
Proverbs 31:10-31 sum it up but let's look at a couple of verses

vs. 11 Her husband trusts her completely. With her he has everything he needs. (notice the trust part)
vs. 13 She looks for wool and flax and likes to work with her hands.
vs,16 She inspects a field and buys it. With money she earned, she plants a vineyard. (notice the with money she earned part.)

but according to the bilbe she should submit to your judgment to stay home. if that's what you want then so be it. But don't say the bible says a woman should stay home and clean. it doesn't.

Answer 7

The Bible says she's not to work? Where, exactly?

Check out Proverbs 31, and then try to convince me the Bible says she can't work.

UPDATE: Well, you said you were a "Christian" man, had you said "Mormon," I would've left you alone. Nevertheless, the Bible doesn't mention anything like you said. I've not read the Book of Mormon, so I couldn't tell you what it says.

Answer 8

As for the Bible, the only thing it says is that a wife is to submit to her husband's authority. So if you follow the Bible, then you would make the final decision on whether or not she is employed outside the household.
~~~BUT keep in mind, as a CHRISTIAN MAN, you are also responsible to make the best decision for BOTH OF YOU. Not just based on what you want! Having dinner done, and your socks clean is nice...but I would hope you would be enlightened enough to see that your wife might be happier working.
Personally, I submit to NO other person. And if my husband tried to tell me what to do I would laugh!!! In my marriage WE make our decisions TOGETHER. And BOTH of us cook and clean as needed.

Answer 9

Proverbs 31 describes a very hard-working, loving, devoted, and richly spiritual woman. It never mentions anything about wages being forbidden to women. In fact, it never mentions wages at all.

Your happiness is your own responsibility, not hers. She's responsible for her own happiness, so the burden of her own happiness is enough, without the burden of yours as well. To each their own, married or not, which is logical and realistic and healthy.

As a good Christian man, find where it FORBIDS women from working outside of the home. You won't find this forbidden, so as a good Christian man, do not speak for God, nor change or add to His word.

Btw, you don't "let" her do anything. She chooses, there is no "letting." Got it?

Answer 10

We are created equal and given the ultimate of gifts from God .... Freewill to choose. Woman was not created from the ankle or the skull she was created from the rib. Did God write the bible or a bunch of power hungry men that felt intimidated by women. Look into your soul and listen to your heart on this not your head. Remember judge not. John 13-34 11th commandment " love one another as I so love you." Love is not controlling it is the freedom to express the heart and soul. I could go on but you will do what you have programed to do anyway. Your wife has the right to be free to do anything she choose. You are not your brothers keeper. etc.etc.

Answer 11

where in the bible does it say that?!?!...what about her happiness?!?!?...if she wants to work let her. Would you rather her stay at home and be miserable, falling into depression and feel worthless or would you rather her work. She needs to get out and socialize and put her mind to work, keeping busy and bringing in another income is always a good thing