I am freelance and have all my work up north in england. grown up here etc. I panicked though when I turned 31 and told my family I had to move down south as I was scared of getting talked into an arranged marriage. The people I freelance with really like me and I lilke the people I am with. For yrs I have been unhappy and I feel I don't want to move away as I don't think I will find the same sort of nice people again. My trouble is ...I live with my mum who has high expectations of me marrying a hindu boy of preferably a high caste and who is punjabi. I also live with my brother who gets to do anything he likes. I can not stand him as he gets treated very differently to me and he doesn't see it. I won't go on...but it is pretty major things like my mum not demanding money off him like she did with me and my mum stating that he will get all her homes when she dies.
My family will not understand me moving away just for the sake of it. If I say I have to move
2006-12-04 08:09:10 · 8 answers · asked by Blue_Bell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
because of carrer progression then my mum will let me go. My problem is where? I originaly lied and said I had to move to bristol but I know no one there at all.
Should I adjust the lies and say I can move closer to home? Like Chester or liverpool so I can still pop home on weekend?
2006-12-04 08:11:00 · update #1
Just move. It's your life.
2006-12-04 08:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a really tough one.. i don't know what to say to u.. i think u should say that u can move nearer to home so that u are not so far away but it is a good idea to get out of your home and live on your own with your own independence.. will ur mother and father not still not try and talk u into the marriage though??
don't move too far away, its always good to have family around and near u no matter what, and if u move all the way down south, it'll be really hard for u especially knowing no one..
i hope things will work out for u... good luck :)
2006-12-04 16:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say this is the sort of thing that can split family's if handled wrong. it sounds like your mother is forcing her beliefs on you or is worried that you will never marry. beliefs are hard to change she is used to her code of society rules and you your set of society rules. you first of all will have to talk to her and tell her how her behaviour is making you feel. But in turn she will tell you the same and these views can clash. then let it simmer for a while if nothing changes then you will have to take action you may have to move but that may not mean out of the town. As for your brother it may not be only the fact hes Boy that is causing different in behaviour. no matter what parents do treat their children differently especially when it comes to age different it always happen in my family.
i hope what ever you decide it goes well for you.
2006-12-04 16:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by dislexic1yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPLIT!!! And fast. Sounds like ur getting taken advantage of. You're a person mate, doesn't matter what your race, religion or background. Look after you.
2006-12-04 16:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by tfto_geekboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO TO CITIZEN ADVICE THEY WILL PUT YOU IN TOUCH
WITH PEOPLE THAT WILL HELP YOU MOVE AND RELOCATE
SOMEWHERE YOU WANT TO BE
AND YOU WILL MAKE FRIENDS THRU THEM
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-04 18:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to them like u just did here
2006-12-04 17:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by BeautyBreak H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk it through with them. They will understand.
2006-12-04 16:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Aled H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You live somewhere in India.
2006-12-04 16:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by la chica sexy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋