I have a decision to make between 2 people who care about me and vice versa. One I am seeing now, he is someone who could and would give me anything. The other is the ex who I have been missing since he left and wants badly to work things out. I love them both and can't stand the thought of hurting either one. I work with the one I am seeing now which makes the situation even more complicated. I can't stand the thought of losing the ex again but on the same note can't stand the thought of hurting the one I'm with.
My head and my heart are both pulling me in different directions and I don't have a clue which way to go...
2006-12-04 08:06:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Edit: Is it better to choose with your heart or your* head?
2006-12-04 08:07:48 · update #1
Both.
Take a word of advice my Dad gave me: when looking to marry, do not pick the person you can live with. Pick the person you cannot live without.
2006-12-04 08:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Choose with your heart.....In the end your heart will always win....you know how much your ex means to you and the thought of loosing him again would hurt emancely... trust me... if i had the oportunity to be with my ex right now.. i would choose him....it sounds like you love him... and thats a beautiful thing... regardless... someone is going to get hurt the best way to handle this situation is to be honest with everyone including yourself... your ex an you obviously have a connection of some sort and probably a history... find out what your ex sees for your future as it pertains to the both of you ... speak with your current parner chances are he has probably picked up on the fact that although you may not be physically cheating you are emotionally and that is no good.... Anyways my answer to you is to go with your heart. he loves you ... you love him and make it work.. trust me if and when i get my chance with my ex i would defienlty not make him pass me again
God Bless
pray about it sometimes God makes the descions for us.
peace
2006-12-04 16:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by dee dee s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly right for each other, you won't have to decide between your heart and your head, because you will KNOW with every fibre of your being that you are meant to be together.
You do not need anyone besides yourself and the answer is already within you. Ask them both for a week of no contact to get your own perspective back. If either of them contacts you within that week then you know they do not respect your needs and you can be justified in letting them go.
2006-12-04 16:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by zmj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both have to agree. But it isn't an either or thing. You have to take each on its own merit.
What ever reason you had for breaking up with the ex is still there. So it would be stupid to go back. i.e. Your head should be telling you not to and you shouldn't.
2006-12-04 16:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anymore. Just a few weeks ago I would have said your head. Now I care for someone so I say your heart. You need to really think about your feelings. There is one that you love more.
2006-12-04 16:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If either one is lacking - heart or head - you are in deep trouble. Lack of either one is a recipe for disaster. But even more important is prayer. Allow God to guide both your heart and your head whenever there is an important decision to make.
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2006-12-04 16:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. The way i look at relation ships now is i think about which girl would make a better mother for my children. So try that.... Hope you make the right choice. Dont beat your self up once you make your choice.
2006-12-04 16:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek the Word for His answer to this question. Jesus knows the heart of all involved and the future too! emotions will lead you astray.
2006-12-04 16:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lover of my soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have a spiritual answer for you, but I'd say that your ex is an ex for a reason...
2006-12-04 16:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by Let Me Think 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your ex your ex? did he leave you? did you leave him? If he left why and can you trust he won't again? did you leave him and why? I think you need to find out those questions first.
2006-12-04 16:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Stand 4 somthing Please! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋