daughter problem?

Question

My daughter is 6yrs old and has been in the past a very good sleeper but recently she gets up to use the toilet and wont go back to bed too sleep without crying and moaning and calling fpr me mummy, so i get up and put her back to bed but she still wont settle without me or her dad sleeping on the sofa in the front room then once she knows where there she will settle and sleep. this is causing problems for us as we both have to get up in the morning for work we have tried the returning to bed without speaking to her routine for 10 days but it didnt work so please if any one has any ideas please tell us were at our witts end now and dont know what else to do with her help us please.

Answer 1

I think she is just getting a bit spooked, my son has just turned 7 and went through a smilar thing, he has his light left on now, but I have to clear his room of any toys he points too that scare him in the night........

Answer 2

Try to stop drinks approx 2 hours before she goes to bed, make sure she has a snack. Try bed-time an hour later than usual and put a plug in night light in her bedroom, she might be feeling a little insecure. She may be mising you as you say you both work and in her own way trying to get a bit of your time and attention, Also how is school, any probs there that you are unaware of? sometimes a change in behaviour is covering up for a problem you are not aware of, ask your daughter if all is ok at school. Didn't have a daughter but raised two son's. xx

Answer 3

get her to bed a little later than she normally goes to get her really tired and make sure she has gone to the toilet before bed .
i know how you feel ive 3 kids and all of them have had probs which now have been solved an extra 1/2 up maybe could help .

Answer 4

This is an amazing way of solving problems and putting your fears at ease, the scaring factor is [key] I find children around the age of 5 develop a sense of what is fearful to them and how things look or what it represents in their perception, if you can identify what it is, and help them to work at it, hopefully they will feel more confidant, my 5 year old is very much at this stage and is afraid of dirty toilets, and other things but we are working through solutions one by one. good luck

Answer 5

Right the reason is simple, the cure may not be. Lie on her bed in the dark and look around. There is something that is scaring her and she might be too scared to voice it. Look to see if there is a teddy on the wardrobe that looks menacing in the dark or are her curtains or blinds patterned? Could they look like they have scary faces in the folds? Have a look and remove whatever you think it could be. Check the wardrobe door is fully closed.

Answer 6

try and give her a bedside lamp if she hasn't one , might be scared of the dark also tell her you are right there if she needs you and keep both doors hers and yours ajar and show her this. keep bringing her straight back into her bed instead of sofa lie down with her for a while put on a nice tape of lullaby songs and she will gradually realise its safe to go asleep.kids this age have big imaginations and she might be scared of something just needs reassurance and you need lots of patience , best of luck

Answer 7

I'm guessing your bedroom is not near hers, that is not good for young children.

1.Night lights in her room the hall and the bathroom, also in all of the areas needed leading to your room.

2. She is frightened when she wakes up and needs reassurance.

Answer 8

One of my sons was terrified of the shadow his Skeletor punch bag made in the dark. He'd get up to go to the loo and then, same as your daughter he'd cry for us before he'd go back to bed. Once we'd found out why (we just chucked the punch bag out) he was fine. Maybe your daughter has a similar fear of something that's in her bedroom that doesn't seem scary to you. It took us about a fortnight to get it out of him, it wasn't easy! But well worth the effort.

Answer 9

She is old enough where you can ask her why she wont go back to sleep talk to her and hear her out maybe that will indicate why i talk to my five year old all the time. Commuinicate with her

Answer 10

watch super nanny. "not being facetious" this show is bloomin marvellous i have tried to implement some of their ideas and my nine year old has behaved much better, we talk about the show together and she understands the benefits and consequence's of having a routine. it has honestly helped me to cope as a parent.