i always have arguments with my parents- i feel i am always right but they do to. is this normal?

Question

does anyone else have constant arguments with their family? i always want to say sorry but i find it so hard

Answer 1

We all have arguements but try to make amends, they are the only parents you,ll ever have and if anything happens to them u will regret it.

Answer 2

You are your "parents'" child, why wouldn't you be "just like them". I would tell your parents exactly what I am telling you. Children are the reflection of the four walls in which they are raised. If you want to "break the mold", and be an individual, you will have to learn to say "your sorry", and "don't" argue! Remember, as long as you live at home, make it easier on yourself, and "give" - you will be surprised what Rewards will come you way if you try out my suggestion. And the reason, you feel that You are Correct, is just the Same as your Parents, you are ALL Headstrong, a great quality, I know. Are you Italian, I am, and I was raised in a similar "household". Someone told me, what I have just told you. It worked, I loved it, we grew closer as a family and there was a lot less stress... Good Luck, and Merry Christmas.

Answer 3

I used to have a ton of agruements with my family (mom, brother, and dad) too and felt I was always right. I would get really upset and sensitive because I thought I was always right. NEWSFLASH. Recently I moved out and got married within the same year ar a pretty young age. Tough times but I love my life. What did I find out? My parents were right about almost EVERYTHING. Suddenly all their preaching made perfect sense and actually helped deal with my new responsibilities. Its crazy and dont feel bad because I think all teens and young adults feel this way. We think we know everything even though we really arent trying to be a know-it-all. No matter how much you think your right. Always consider that your parents have lived through and experienced 10 times more than you. They are really trying to help you - God I sound like my mom! I am only telling you this because I really regret not listening to some things. Dont get me wrong - still be you and still be opinionated, just dont be quick to diss advice and your parents parenting!
Good luck
p.s. "just say sorry if I made you feel bad and for fighting - You just have to understand I feel my own way about things but I admire your advice." It takes a big person to do this but its worth it

Answer 4

Everyone always feels they are right but someone has to be wrong in an argument. However, there are times when both parties can be right too, yet have different opinions about that same topic. Especially when it comes to parents and their children. Parents always feel they are right because they lived more years then you and have been through experience that has given them the knowledge and facts. You have to respect that fact that they just might know whats right for you. I am speaking as a parent and I can tell you, that most of the time I am right about what the circumstances may be for my son's actions and I try to explain it to him but when it comes to issues of beliefs, I allow my son his own opinions because times are different now and I have to respect that. I gues what I am saying is, it depends on what you are arguing about it. If you feel strongly about something related to religion, society, peers, career and relationships, then of course, you should feel right about how you feel, they are your feelings and you are entitled to that right. But if it is about your safety, health, education and financial security, then you must respect that your parents have been there, done that and will know better.
Say sorry to your parents when you feel you have been disrespectful but if you feel strongly about your feelings, there are others ways to say sorry, without apologizing for your beliefs. Simply say, mom or dad, I shouldn't have yelled or have gotten that angry but I feel this way because...... or I believe in that because..... and try to have a true discussion. Remember your parents love you so much and they only want the best for you. But also remember, they are only human and are entitled to make mistakes.
Good Luck

Answer 5

When I was younger I always thought I knew everything and couldn't understand why my parents didn't agree with me!

It's a natural thing in adolescence to challenge ideas and opinions, you are just developing your sense of self and moving towards becoming independent.

The worst part about arguing with your parents is, invariably they are right! (don't tell mine I said that though!) Try and keep an open mind when they tell you something, they are the only people that have nothing to gain by lying to you and will always have your best interests at heart. All they are trying to do is to give you the benefit of their age and life experience and to stop you making some of the mistakes they did when they were young.

Answer 6

Are you a teenager? If so, this is very normal. It's probably something that will continue to happen throughout the rest of your life since parents are naturally very protective of their children and only want what's best. At the same time though, there comes a time when they need to step down and let you make your own decisions and mistakes in order to learn and grow from them.

Answer 7

OMgah i have constant arguments with my parents ALL the time!! When i was just a lil younger i would never even think about arguing with them only cause i thought i was being respectuful...till one day i just blew up! Now i argue with them when i know for a "fact" that im right! BUt dont argue at first actually try sitting them down and just talking to them..when parents see this initiative they really try to listen.GOod luCk

Answer 8

if you're a teenager.....
traditionally teenagers are very hard for parents to get along with due to lack of understanding on their part, and maybe a little immaturity on your part. nobody can always be right, and if you really want to apologize then you should, maybe you'd get your way more often if you step up and try to be the better person.
this of course will backfire if your rents are total dicks, but give it a whirl anyway.
if you're an adult..........
just visit them less often, absence makes the heart grow fonder and when you do see them just be real nice and if they're unable to return the favor just bare with it, there are worse problems in life than getting along with parents.

and no, your situation is not unique, it's been repeated trillions of times throughout history, and when your mom or dad where growing up they probably got into just as many fights with their parents, and the same goes for your grandparents and their parents before them. it's just a part of growing up. if you know anybody that always gets along with their family, then you know one of those one in a million types, or a spoiled brat.
SUFFERING BUILDS CHARACTER. all those who do not suffer will never really learn the true value of life. so keep your head up, grit your teeth and deal with it. it'll all be over before you know it.

Answer 9

I bet you are aged between 13 and 17. Yes it is perfectly normal. To upset you. the problem is that you are trying to establish your independance and you feel that you are always right, beacause at your age you will never admit to being wrong even when you feel guilty about what you do. You just get angry and stubborn.
Dont worry about it, its totally normal. Even I went through it, unfortunately a long time ago

Answer 10

listen sweetie, let the truth be known, it doesn't stop once you are eighteen!!! i still have "fights" with my 9 bro's and sisters and with my mum and i'm 30... its normal!!
your family only wants what's right and good for u, and they don't wanna understand your side at the time.. believe me, i'm a mum myself now and i know what it's like! i tell my son that if i'm really annoying him, he should think the things in his head about me, not out loud because we can't take the words back the hurt.. and i tell him that thoughts don't hurt anyone and he'll feel differently in the morning..
i only gave him this advice (he's 8) coz i often wished i hadn't said some of the things i said to my mum!
so in times of battle count to ten in your head and think all of the bad things u want, and don't say them! u'll feel better about it and your parents and friends will see a new more adult u and maybe even change their way of reacting to u in such situations..
good luck :)

Answer 11

Ugh - been there, still there at times.

There's a quote of some kind - you can choose your friends, but not your family...

I love my parents, but we have a long history of arguments... and I apply logic to all my arguments - they don't, they just go off what certain media outlets spout.

And even at my age, it can sometimes get ugly... they don't research anything...

My solution - I try not to talk about things that might bring a conflict. Kind of sucks, but I do love them, and I know they aren't going to change...

Good luck.

-dh