how can you find out if your man is cheating?what are signs?how do you get them to come clean?what do you do?

Question

my man is addicted to xaxnx and he says when he tskes it makes him forget the stuff he does.well when i ask him if he cheated on me he got mad ans sia d not that he knows of.and when i ask to smelll his member he will say he hasent showered in a while so it probley smells.he always random numbers in his phone.i call the numbers but a guy will always anser.he is a pizza delivery driver so i know he uses his phone for wor work but is it all work?is some play?how do you konw?he lies constanly and his storys alwas change.he says he will leave me if i dont stop bugging him with the accusations.i dont want that we have 2 kids.i dont want to punish him if he is innocent but then agian i dont want sloppy seconds.his freinds have told me he has gotten numbers from girls at work.he denies it.he wont tell me anything!!!!!what do i do???

Answer 1

Signs of cheating...
He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
You find a woman's hair on the seat of his car.
You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back.
He suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
He works overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
He has loss of appetite at dinner (because he ate with his mistress).
His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume.
You see lipstick or makeup on your husband's clothes.
He is not home as much.
He wants to attend functions alone.
He is not as interested in sex.
He leaves the room to speak on the phone.
He has strange numbers on cell phone.
He spends more time on the computer.
He suddenly is deleting email messages.
He asks about your schedule more often.
He has strange receipts in wallet.
He hides credit card statements.

Answer 2

You need to figure out how to best support yourself and your two chn. and not rely on this guy to always be there. He seems like he has lots of issues, and the details in your question indicates that you are aware that he is lying to you. You also seem willing to accept anything provided he doesn't leave you. That's no way to live your life. Focus on what is in your best interest and how you can take care of yourself long term. It's just a matter of time before the harsh realities of life catch up with you. If you don't get past this, you'll never find that special person who will treat you as you deserve to be treated. So, grow up and make your own path. You have enough information to access this situation and you're probably not giving yourself enough credit. Don't let the mistakes you've made in the past hold you back forever. Good Luck

Answer 3

Seems like all the signs are there already. And what in the world does "not that I know of" mean ? I cant believe he even said that to you. To me that sounds like a yes. All you can do is keep investigating. Write down all the numbers he calls until you see the same number over and over again. Then run the number and see if you can get an address. Then you'll have to do more investigation.

Answer 4

Most likely, he is cheating... catch him by having one of ur friends set him up, but hey that would only be fun..i say set him up to deliver pizza at a friend's house he doesn't know about. but only do it if u definitely don't want him anymore. She should be an ordinary girl and see how far he goes with her.Spare urself the heartache if u still want him tho. the truth will hurt so its best just to leave him now.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like he is or has cheated on you. His excuses are lame and evasive. If he didn't cheat then he would try his very best to make you feel re-assured about it. Obviously you are self-consious about it, and he should understand that. You need to kick him to the curb before he destroys your self esteem. Find yourself a guy that will treat you like a queen and treat him like a king in return. You'll be much happier. No offense but your man sounds like a douche-bag and I think you need to move on before he hurts you even more than he already is.

Answer 6

It sounds to me like your partner is cheating. Now it's up to you to figure out how to catch him. An easy way is to purchase an inexpensive long-recording digital tape recorder and place it hidden well under his car seat. Then review it later so you can hear his telephone calls but NEVER let him know how you found out if you discover something. You can find great tips on how to catch a cheater at http://www.womansavers.com/catch-a-cheater.asp

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

im sorry but u might not like what im gettin ready 2 say but get ready may b yo man iz turning GAY or he iz playin while he iz on the job. so may b u and yo 2 kidz should go 2 a holtel and just give him a little yo medicine and den he might want 2 come clean about what he been doin and den u guys can work it out.





Cuz when he comez home and doesn't c his wife and kidz then he iz goin 2 know somethin iz up and he iz goin 2 talk more because he iz goin 2 miss his family!!!!!!

Answer 8

Of course, we all know that while men and women are both capable of cheating, it's often the guys who have the biggest problem keeping their belts firmly buckled. And we all know that no matter who it's with, why it's done, or where the after-hours canoodling takes place, cheating is-most of the time-the ultimate relationship death sentence. But instead of dwelling on what happens after the cheating takes place, one of the ways to perhaps prevent infidelity is by knowing a little bit about why men stray. I'm not offering them as excuses, merely explanations as to what happens in that brain (and other body parts) of his-in hopes that you might be able to prevent it. Here, the top reasons why men cheat:

To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.


To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.


To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try ("I'm just not happy"), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.


To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.

Answer 9

If you don't have trust, you can't have a good relationship. It really is that simple. Children or not, you need to chalk this relationship up to experience and head on down the road, my friend. NO ONE is worth this much doubt and trouble. Do you AND your kids a favor...think enough of yourself and their welfare and bid him farewell.

Good luck to you!

Answer 10

if you really think that he is cheating, you should leave him.
mabey, his friends just said that he had got girls numbers just to make you jelous.
it sounds like he is cheating though..