How would you tell them?

Question

If you thought your bf/gf had a mental illness that wasn't being treated (or was being ignored altogether), how would you convey your concern and suggest they get help? I care A LOT about this girl, we've dated for some time now, but, looking back, I have always known there was something odd about the way we relate to each other. I think I know what is REALLY going on (though she hasn't told me). I do respect her privacy, but I also care for her a lot, so I am torn about what to do. Half of me says to let her come to her own conclusions while the other half instinctively knows she will just continue to blame herself for the disintegration of our relationship b/c of this potential condition and, therefore, am almost willing to let her hate me (for bringing this to her attention) in the hopes that she will eventually agree w/ me (even if she never talks to me again) and get the help she needs. What would you do?

Answer 1

Do whatever you feel is right in your heart and let your own conscious be your guide. She may never get close enough to anyone else to reveal that part of herself. Reassure her that you care about her if you do discuss this matter with her and go from there. Good Luck

Answer 2

I think I agree with you. I mean, what's more important. Having her know the truth and get help that she might need or having her hate you? In time she may eventually see what you mean too and be thankful you suggested it to her but please try to do it in a way that's respectful and not embarrasing to her! Good luck

Answer 3

You sound really supportive and considerate :-) How about diplomatically talking to her or buying her a book on the subject you're talking about. Do it supportively and with the intent of her healing and it could bring the two of you much closer together.

Answer 4

Yes, if you love her, let her know that you're here for her and to help her. She may get defensive at first, but later, she'll realize that you do care for her.

Answer 5

You should tell her.