my mother doesnt except who i am because i am lesbian, she trys to make it really hard on me especially these last 2 years in highschool. how do show her that i am just this way and she could love me this way.
2006-12-04 07:26:39 · 13 answers · asked by teddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its sad to hear that your mom doesn't except you the way you are, and sadly you can't force change on someone, you have to give it time, stay calm, and don't try and fight her when she brings it up, you have to deal with this kind of stuff with a cool head. I can't really tell you what to say to her, but I can tell you this, cool head, be relaxed. If I were you I'd tell her that I loved her with all my heart every time she brought the fact of being a lesbian up, and then just walk away. But thats just me.
2006-12-04 15:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by shitgoblin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom has every right to not accept your being what you say you are, where you always the way you feel you are or is this something you are involved in at the time. because i noticed with most teenagers to today being gay is like a fashion statement and don't really no what they are doing . I'm sure if your mom felt that if you where truly a lesbian she should would have noticed it years ago even as parents . we know even if we don't ever say it. it's something your born with not something you decide you want to be because it's the new in thing. but if you feel you are truly a lesbian when you become an adult and are still with women and are in a more mature setting I'm sure she will accept you for what you are and for what you want to be. ease up on your mom this is hard on her right know not all parents are gonna welcome you with open arms . lol
2006-12-04 15:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lesbian and i haven't experienced how you feel, but i know that it hurts. As hard as it may be to have your mom reject you, you have to be strong. You may need some time away from her so she can see what she is missing out on. The best way to solve this problem is to sit down and have a real talk with her. Beware because she will throw questions at you that may make you want to think real hard. Nevertheless, I don't think you should drop your values for anyone. Just remember that if you want your ideas to be heard you need to hear her out as well.
I hope it all works out!
Maya
2006-12-04 15:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by smile♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people will never accept you for who you are. i know that it is so hard because she's your mom. for the past year, i've been out of her house and it still hurts me because i hate to come home to someone who hates me. i've been counting down the years when i would get to leave. but the rest of my family is loving towards me and respects my decisions to be who i am.
im really sorry to hear that somebody else has to go thru the same thing.
sometimes friends would offer suggestions, like telling my mom that i love her and respect her decision to dislike who i am...
2006-12-04 15:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by emerald_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents need their children a hell of a lot more than children need their parents. (I've been both) Continue to be yourself. Your mother will have to learn to accept you as you are or do without you. I know which I'd rather do. She'll come around. I'm sure she does love you, it's herself she's having a problem with I expect.
2006-12-04 15:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a while shell accept u 4 who u r
2006-12-04 15:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by kyrah aka babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes is hard for some one u love accept ur bad side gave her some time.
2006-12-04 15:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Araceli A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont pay attention to her. You already tried to explain her and make her understand the way you are. Just give her time eventually she would have to accept who you are.
2006-12-04 15:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not your problem, it is hers.
You have been open and honest by telling her. Now all you can do is be yourself and hope that she will accept you sooner or later.
My guess is it is hard for her to do but she will come around eventually...
2006-12-04 15:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happened with me for awhile. The best thing is to be who you are. remember one day you wont be under that roof and they cant be there always telling yo how to act. Eventually she will realize that who you really are is who she sees now.
2006-12-04 15:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋