as a child i know my parents did not want me, but i still fear being unwanted in a relationship. Its awful it is and i think its silly as the guy i am seeing he was mistreated as a boy, i was quite surprised when he told me, his elder stepbrother tried to kill him at he swimming baths, the lifeguard saved him. his mother run off when he was one and he had a horrible stepmother and yet he is successful and one of the loveliest men i have ever met. I really like him so much he has so many qualities i like. Hes interesting and independant, but i am afraid he is going to go off me, and i will be hurt, if he does not want me i would rather he just told me. How can someone who has been with though so much be so nice.
most of the men in my past have not been very nice. i speak to him for hours sometimes on the phone and we get on great You know i am 47 been married but divorced and i have never liked a bloke as much as him and it scares me a bit cos i want to stay with him.
2006-12-04 07:20:54 · 19 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well a guy like him is definitely worth keeping i do understand how it feels not being wanted there are many people out there had bad childhood and terned out to be the most successfully people out there just because he had it bad when a child don't mean he cant be a nice guy he just want to be loved like you do and be treatd the same as you want to be treate so don't street it out let it go and just enjoy life if you stress thing out like that you just never going to be happy
2006-12-04 07:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeming how you both have been through terrible childhoods, you guys understand each other and know what it feels like to be mistreated. If you love him, tell him. I think as long as you're honest about everything and open, then everything will be okay. You both will have to learn to let that wall down. It will take a lot of work and time, but it'll be worth it in the end, because it's for love.
2006-12-04 07:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you guys are totally in tune with each other,you both have similar past issues and this creates a common understanding between you.lets just say things didn't work out between you two,that has nothing to do with your past and is in no way connected.we all feel rejected sometimes,its just that anytime you are,it brings back all the bad memories from the past.I really feel for you.I have a friend who was I believe abused in the past and he has difficulty trusting people etc.its such a shame that these people have already,in a word,taken so much of your life's enjoyment already.let go of the past and embrace this guy who i think will do the same with you.best of luck and please let us know what happened.KB
2006-12-04 08:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by pinkydinkydoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, relationships are hard when you have scars from your childhood. I had a really horrible time when I was younger and have issues with abandonment which really affects my ability to have a good relationship.
I think you're very lucky to have found a man you can be honest and open with and who you really like. Don't let this one get away. You're never too old to take a few risks so go for it and be happy.
2006-12-04 07:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both hurts genuine undesirable , rejection is a lot less demanding the guy is straight away up with you or the pastime ,etc. worry of rejection is the worst component to ensue to absolutely everyone ought to really admit to that, what if?,what might want to i do? not back? am i able to make this difficulty more advantageous suited previously i proceed?why me? questions be racing on your ideas , yet after the rejection were given to carry on and make issues more advantageous suited for your self
2016-11-30 03:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal that you feel unwanted because our childhood made us what we are today.The fact that "speak to him for hours sometimes on the phone" shows that you are interested one about the other and you should take the time to tell him that you don't want to be heart broken and that you want a serious relationship.Hope all things work out for you.
2006-12-04 07:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ianc V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same as you do, my birth mother left my sister and me when i was a baby my dad got custody f us, but it is her rejection that has caused me so much pain and mistrust in my life, and i am nearly 40, and i still feel like that, I hope you can get over this horrible feeling and i hope he doesnt hust you not all men are bad , as not all mothers are bad , so good luck in your life i wish you well.
2006-12-04 07:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by dreamyuk67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might have sort of personality disorder that might of developed because of your neglect as a child, sound like you have some dependency issues. Go see a therapist, Good luck!
2006-12-04 07:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by 132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection hurts! and you have had a lot of exsperance with that at a young age. That is hard to get over. Also if you exspect to be rejected you could be causing yourself to be rejected.
2006-12-04 07:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by zipper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't worry about that. If you worry about things like that all the time, then you will make it happen. Just enjoy your time together, and guarantee you won't be dissapointed. He wouldn't be spending time with you if it wasn't what he wanted.
2006-12-04 07:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Pudge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋