I have fallen in love with a girl, who admits intense feelings for me, but is currently in a serious relationship. We met through at a work conference. Kept in touch via the phone - and started to form an incredibly strong relationship. She is currently living with her boyfriend, and at first it was ok - as we didnt realize we were starting to build intense feelings for eachother. The ONE big problem with her bf, is that they dont see eye to eye on the future of their careers - more like he is in a small city world and she thinks bigger then life. Our fields go hand and hand, we share passions, creativity, and most importantly, she says I give her an amazing spiritual feeling - which she lacks with her bf. He is about being at home, drinking and relaxing - she thought that's what she was cool with - until she met me.
I'm very confused - I KNOW something has to change. WE cannot continue to create stress in her life. We've tried twice to stop talking - and we can't. what todo
2006-12-04 07:20:41 · 7 answers · asked by loveright 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. forget about her and find someone else
2. pursue her and either:
a. waste time and energy when she can't make her mind but sticks with the other guy
b. have a nice relationship with her after she dumps him, but have your relationship end when she finds someone "better" and dumps you.
Of course, there are exceptions to rules, but I'd go with 1. if I were you.
2006-12-04 07:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on dude. I can already tell she is trouble. If she has feelings that are that strong for you, then she would end her current relationship. Don't ever give a girl that much power over you man. She's getting the best of both worlds and you are stressing out about it. Flat out tell her that it can't keep going like this. Her response will tell you what you need to know, but you need to take control of the situation, or you will end up being miserable.
2006-12-04 15:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Pudge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl has to make a decision. you cannot cont. with this affair. it will make you passionately crazy. why has she not left him? You need to tell her that this can't cont as it is. if she does not want to leave her man then you need to move on. If she decides to leave her bf you make sure that she is leaving him because she wants to, not because you are there for her. I know you have feelings for her and you should take a step back. be there as a friend and refrain from getting into talks about love or being together until she makes a decision.
2006-12-04 15:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt want to be with her boyfriend and wants to be with you, she needs to make the decision to end her current relationship with him. If shes not willing to do that, then does she really have these strong feeling for you? Ask her: why be in a relationship if your not happy? It only makes people miserable. If she cheats on her boyfriend with you, whos to say she wouldnt do it to you later in the future.
2006-12-04 15:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need stop talking again and this time permanently. It is not fair to you, her or her boyfriend to persue a relationship when her other one has not ended. You are only making things more complicated for yourself. Tell her that you are leaving and that the door is open to her once she ready to persue an honest relationship.
2006-12-04 15:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by christina r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to call you when she gets her life together. She has no business getting you involved in her mess. She won't ever be able to be serious with you until she chooses to break up with the other guy.
2006-12-04 15:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by threelucy2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try it se how it goues
2006-12-04 15:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋