I really really like this guy...We meet though mutal friends & started talking on myspace..we decided to go out to the movies in early September....every since then we've been spending more & more time together...I go & visit him at his job...we always go out to eat...I'm always at his house...whenever He goes to the store or something he asks if I want to come...I've met all his friends & sisiter...& he's met some of my friends & sisters...but about 3 weeks ago he told me that wecouldn't work out right now...he said that he wished we had met sooner & things could be different...but he tells me how much he likes me & we still spend time together & talkin on the phone...I'm not sure if I should just move on or not...
2006-12-04 07:13:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you asked him why he feels this way? If he has then you either need to accept it or move on. If he is only wanting you as a good friend then that is what needs to happen. If after speaking with him and he indicates that he just isn't ready but is wanting to pursue something with you later then it's up too you if you want to wait around.
2006-12-04 07:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is obvious, he has other commitments in his mind. Let him go. It is ok to be there as a friend, but no more, it is not fair to both your friendship! Respect his wishes and also, do not make yourself so available. In time, if he sees you are having fun without him and he is not happy with what he thought ihe wanted he will return, yet do not be too easy if this happens, after all, he thought you to only be 2nd best before, he must now earn the right to have you back. If it is another, simply support him and know he was not the right one for you, after all, you do not want someone who does not want you - this is DUMB! and a major waste of time, effort and emotion!!!
2006-12-04 07:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by jessica_anne_de 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey sunshine. I, like the others, are experiancing the same thing. I can't believe these days no one wants anything then cheap old sx. I say you and i should move on. I am happy you asked this question cause i just learnt that i am not the only one. One day he calls me then doesn't call. Sees me once in awhile, with no commitment. I bet if you pull away he will either run towards you or do nothing. Should be interesting to see what will happen. GOOD LUCK!!!
Maria
2006-12-04 07:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Maria K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is telling you that for now, he just want's to be friends and there's nothing wrong with that is there? Eventually your friendship could grow in one way or another. Even if no serious/romantic relationship happen's, everyone could use a friend. I would respect his choice and who know's maybe later on in life he might decide you were the one all along but even if that never happen's why give up on him just because you are not getting what you want out of it? :) Good luck
2006-12-04 07:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay for you to talk on the phone, but that's it. He cannot have his cake and eat it too. Some people say, why buy the cow when the milk is free? Don't set your self up for disappointment because every time yall spend time together he might not but you will develop deeper feelings toward him. Don't settle, please.I'm sure it's other guys that are dying for your whole package!!!
2006-12-04 07:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by LiStEN<<<Is Retired!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's made it clear that he doesn't want a relationship with you (as a couple) and that's his perogative. Respect his wishes and move on. He may make a wonderful friend instead, but I wouldn't stick around waiting for him to change his mind about dating. So, if he's not asking you out and spending time with you on weekends and evenings....accept the message he's sending you. Good Luck
2006-12-04 07:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him to clarify for you what he means by he wish he could have known you sooner.
Nonetheless, it definitely sounds like he's not ready yet.
If you are seeking a relationship, you might want to look in other places, you never know...one day it might be the right time for you too. Or, you may find someone better.
2006-12-04 07:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by Chanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can keep him as a friend. Unless it is too painful to only be his friend. If you enjoy being in his company you should continue to do that. In this day and age it is hard to find people you can get along with. If someone else comes along and is interested in starting a relationship go for it. He has already told you he doesn't want a relationship.
2006-12-04 07:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as women we really need to listen when the guy speaks up. doesn't matter what the reason is...he said it plain and simple...you and him cannot work out right now. it sounds to me that you haven't had sex yet or anything like that so this situation can be handled easier then if you got involved sexually. The question here is ...can you deal with it? Can you go on as things are and not have high expectations? If you can...cont. to hang as usual, but if you can't handle it....move on.
2006-12-04 07:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away i am having the same problem now.
the more time i spent with him the more i want him and one day he flirt with me and i was like oh he like me so i call him the next day and he didn't answer his cell or even thought about calling me back and it broke my heart i was lost and confused.
now i feel like a fool.
i haven't seen him for 2 weeks now and when i see him next week i don't think i will be able to look at him.
it hurt THE FUNNY THING IS THIS PROBLEM HAPPEN SEVERAL TIME and now it hit me badly.
stay away, the more u will spend with him u will like him more and he is not willing to give u what u want and u will be heart breaking PLEASE JUST STAY AWAY. if he is ready he will call u and u may have someone else already.
2006-12-04 07:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋