My boyfriend broke up with me this last week, he said that he just couldnt do long distance anymore ( we are 4.5 hours away) it is weird though because i was home for Thanksgiving and he was telling me how excited he was to move to where I am ( he has planned this for months) then the next day he told me he finally told his dad, then the next day after going out with his dad he tells me that when i was home for vaca his dad was jelous of me...and then the next day he decided that he didnt want to move and that long distance was too hard...he claims he still loves me ...etc.he even talks to me like we are still dating and leaves me emails telling me how certain songs remind him of me..and make him sad and cry..but is it true...did he dump me because of his dad...or does he just not love me anymore???
2006-12-04 07:08:09 · 13 answers · asked by very curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's a thought: Stop talking to him. If you continue to treat him the way you did when you were together (i.e.- talking on the phone, responding to his e-mails...), it's only making the fallout that much worse. Get the pain and the heartache out the way and move on with your life. No need for the 6 month easy let down into "friendship".
But here's a better question: What do you really want? Your question was more like a statement that he still treats you the same. Ok, so do you want to move on or do you want to stay together. He's already made it clear that he doesn't want to be with you. I suggest you move on with your life. Take a few months off from dating. Reconnect with friends you've alienated due to your relationship, get a hobby, and stop communicating with this guy. He's getting all the emotional benefits of a relationship without any of the responsibility.
Stop thinking about what he wants and start living your life. He made his choice, let him deal with the pain.
2006-12-04 07:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by babyg1rl007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are caught in the middle. It is obvious your boyfriend still cares about and wants you, yet please understand, he is perhaps being pressured for one reason or another. Reasond may be his parents pushing him to get his education first and helping him along onyl if he listens to them. Other reaon may be he is scared, relationships go to a point where one often feels it is time to make a more serious decisin and he is either not ready to financially o something else like the fear of future divorce is holding him back. Either way, it does not matter what the reason is! If you care bout him and want to see where it eventually leads, be there for him, yet do not let him take you for granted. If you hve other offers for dates, and you are inteested - take those offers. If nothing else it will allow you to better appreciate your boyfriend or realize the grass really is greener elsewhere. Either way, do not move fast, and do not play games or feel you need to lie, be open and honest with him so he understands how you feel and how you re reactinig and have him understand you have a life ot lead as well, it is not just about him. good luck, it will not be easy, but stand up for yourself.
2006-12-04 07:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by jessica_anne_de 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't realy know what they want sometimes. He still cares for you, but like my mother always says. When men want something they realy want it. Meaning they will give 110% to you. If they half step, they are still playing the game or not ready for what you want. Deep down he cares. They all do to a point.
In my opinion, do your own thing and be a distant friend. Read Love Smart by Dr. Phil. It is very good info.
2006-12-04 07:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by la chica sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wreck won't manage to happen except the two certainly one of you settle on it. A wreck is for the two certainly one of you to chop up for awhile and notice people. on the tip of the wreck is while the million dollar question occurs. you may confer with him and have him open as much as you. Like why he needs a wreck, what's the wreck approximately. because of the fact it is not a wreck if he says specific and you're saying no. yet once you men are on a wreck admire the sport and do what a wreck is assume to do.
2016-10-04 21:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol
my x used to do that to me
well its a habit that can not be stop right away
put ur foot down and tell them that they dont have the same privileges no more
lol remind me of my x
she broke up with me and complainin about other women i was meeting
2006-12-04 07:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move On sweet heart, this relationship cannot work, this far apart. It doesn't matter who,what,why! Your young, I can tell from your question. Play along with his "charade", and start looking closer to home! Good Luck and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-04 07:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He loves you but doenst want to feel held down just incase something else comes along
2006-12-04 07:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, okay if your ex still loved you he be with you no matter what and wouldn't care what his dad said. but if he acts like he loves you then it is dad...but it isn't true love if he stoped seeing you cause of his dad being jealous
2006-12-04 07:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his dad is jeluose of what? he should be happy that his son is happy, i dunno how can he break up with you cause of his dad doesnt make sense, well when you talk to him talk as friends only donttell him oyou love him and then he will get scres and ask you out again
2006-12-04 07:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by maria b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow a pair or leave you alone.
2006-12-04 07:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋