(besides maybe choosing a different father) Wait to have it later, marry first, go to college first...?
2006-12-04 06:50:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would not date so young and have sex and get pregnant. I should have finished school and gone to college and then gotten married and had my baby.
That is the right order to do things.
Children who are illegitimate and go to school are made fun of and then they have low self-esteem problems.
2006-12-04 07:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work less and spend more time with my kids.
I did the college thing and no, I would not change anything about the fathers or when I had them. I do believe that things happen for a reason and you have to take your life as it comes. I would never change the past because that also changes the future and would not make me who I am today.
I wish I could make this world safer--less crime, war, disease.
I wish I could always show them the good and not the evil.
I work to support my family and make sure that I can provide for them, but the budget is tight and it can be hard to give them the things that they want. They have what they need, but everyone wishes that they could give their kids a little extra and not have to decide between groceries or a new toy.
EDIT:
I do not agree that illegitimate children have low self esteem problems. My son is an amazing, bright and social child who gets along well with everybody, does excellent in school and exhibits no problems of self esteem. I believe that kids act the same way that their parents do. Raise a child by yelling, hitting and being mean and you get a mean child who believes that hitting and yelling is the correct way to act. Kids are sponges who absorb all that they see and hear and act as they see others acting. I think parents need to take responsibility for their children's actions and quit blaming everyone and everything else. else.
2006-12-04 15:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMMM. I think go to college, But hind site is 20/20...I put my ex through college . I had started and had to quit so he could get his degree. Well, he finished up, 2 kids later and he left us.(married 12 yrs) I am now a mother of a two yr old as well and single still...his father left while I was 7 1/2 mo. along. If I could, I would go back to school. I know I still can, But with 3 kids and having to work, its tough. No, I dont regret my kids at all...none of them. I wouldnt change that part for anything!! What blessings they are! I am only 36, so I know that the future holds a lot for me still and God always provides! :)
2006-12-04 15:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by jh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, for the most part, nothing I would change, But there is one thing, I did a mistake in giving everything my dauther wine about to her, she would make an scene and I would give the stuff to her, because she was my only child at the time. I learned later that was a bad thing. Now when she wines I dont give it to her but she get mad and tel me I dont love her anymore, But she is learning, I have a second child now and she is seeing how it really works and how to act when you want something
2006-12-04 15:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by u_better_remember_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ok my kids father died so its a little different.. I guess save up more before hand.. because you never know
mostly I am pretty happy with what I did.. I lived frugally as I knew it was more important to be with her than to work 40 hours a week and drive a new car.. I worked part time and drove a $300 car.. no cable..etc
2006-12-04 15:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm a single mom & i went to college, i'm in a professional career & financially stable. for myself i'm happy - but for my son, i feel lots of guilt because he didn't have a father for the first 3 years of his life. however, i'm in a happy relationship now & he calls my boyfriend dad & he's going to adopt my son when we get married. it doesn't take away the guilt, so i guess i'm going to say i wish i had had my son with my current relationship, because we are going to be together forever. i just hope that the first couple of years he was without a dad doesn't hurt him in the long run.
2006-12-04 15:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by jack spicer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its not only the mother's choice, kids' souls choose where, when and who they want to be born to.
2006-12-04 14:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by morganna_f 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't change a thing for my own children...but my foster children...if I could have changed some things...oh how long will this list be....
2006-12-04 14:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was a mother...spend more "quality time" with them
2006-12-04 14:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love ur child and he or she loves u nothing
2006-12-04 14:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋