your bf/gf had a mental illness that wasn't being treated (or was being ignored altogether) how would you convey your concern and suggest they get help? I care A LOT about this girl, we've dated for some time now, but, looking back, I have always known there was something odd about the way we relate to each other. I think I know what/what is REALLY going on (though she hasn't told me). I do respect her privacy, but I do care for her a lot, so I am torn about what to do. Half of me says to let her come to her own conclusions while the other half instinctively knows she will just continue to blame herself for the disintegration of our relationship b/c of this potential condition and, therefore, am almost willing to let her hate me (for bringing this to her attention) in the hopes that she will eventually agree w/ me (even if she never talks to me again) and get the help she needs. What would you do?
2006-12-04 06:48:45 · 6 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would explain to her that you really care about her and her future whether it be with you or not, and that you feel by getting checked out she might feel better about herself and her life. Explain to her that having some sort of mental issue is not a weakness or a fault and that they have great medications as well as counseling that can help her maintain a happier life.
2006-12-04 06:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who was in a similar situation. Things were going really well with his girlfriend, until she became crazy (literally). It was a gradual descent, but she ultimately had to go to a mental hospital and is on meds now. The relationship is over, but she can't get over it. I think your girlfriend will be more hurt (and more messed up) in the long run if you let this relationship die.
2006-12-04 15:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by noname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she gets help, she wouldn't be perfectly normal... She'll be like this for the rest of her life. If I were you, I would leave her. Otherwise, you have to take care of her and feel this way FOREVER! Longer you stay with her, it will be harder for you to leave her.
2006-12-04 14:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by RetroBunny69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea... If you care for her that much, You should tell her your concerns. If she leaves you for it, at least you did your best to get her help!
2006-12-04 14:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is get her help if you dont then something bad may happen she may be mad at you now but she will thank you after it is all over trust me
2006-12-04 14:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by Alexis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What condition is it that she needs help with?
2006-12-04 14:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Julia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋